The woman I was married to was highly addicted and kept it hidden from me for years before I found out, her finally admitting what made her so aggressive!
Hello Mr. Flipper, when I escaped from the Wac Tower in 83, there was no internet just little book stores here and there where you might find a shelf with some books on religion and there one might find a book like "30 years a watchtower slave." What I am saying there was very little support.
So I ended up going to AA, I dont think I was much of an alcoholic, I was just a typical JW, but I worked the steps and when everyone else said they were a recovering alcoholic, I said to myself I was a recoveing jw. When it came time to make amends to all of the people I hurt. I addressed my amends to those people that I spread the jw virus to in my time as a pioneer and a salesman for the watertower.
By not attending any meetings at the kingdumb hall and not drinking I reached nirvana after about 2 and a half years. And I didnt drink for 5 years total and went to aa meetings.
I tell you that to tell you this. I knew a lot of addicted people to drugs and alcohol. And I relate to your experience with your former wife, you can't look at an addict and tell they are addicted. Someone could have a suit and a tie on and be shooting heroin. Many of them are clean cut and respectable looking.
AA and NA narcotics anonymous seems to work for people who work the program. I knew a lot of people that were clean and sober for 10 and more years.
http://www.amazon.com/Years-Watchtower-Slave-Confessions-Converted/dp/0801063841