recordcollector
From debi's note, i would say, she just treats people 'nice', but she doesn't have the love for them that jesus had. Jesus, if he existed, loved everybody, even those considered scum. As a jw, debi has been taught that any nonjw is controlled by the devil to a cerain extent, and so are scum, no matter what. She is a nice person, but she is in a really sick religion. I know, i was in it for 30 years. I treated people nice and i seemed like a nice person, but my real self, with all the crap was hidden, sqwashed. It was only after i left, that i could be the real me and start dealing with this baggage.
Religious people always talk about love. Generally, they don't know what it is either. They treat people nice so they can demonstrate how good they are and convert people. Paul, in the bible knew a bit about love. Whitney houston knows more. Her song 'learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all' is the real key. So, recordguy, you have realized what you are, the next step is to accept yourself, then learn to love yourself. IMO