This topic makes us all sick to our stomach, Magick.
How many marriages are just "Theocratic"? Here's a story.....
by WingCommander 17 Replies latest jw friends
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WTWizard
The Tower view of marriage is that the only bond shall be that both partners should be exemplary members of the organization. What is supposed to attract you? Pioneer. Hounders. People in Beth Hell. Attending every meeting. Being super-proficient in field circus. [Self] Righteous.
Didn't it occur to them that a perfect marriage has to have all the elements? People that are spiritually compatible may be emotionally incompatible. Otherwise, there is going to be verbal (and sometimes physical) abuse. And physical attraction is not insignificant, either.
Besides, where is the test drive? The Tower expects people to enter a marriage without any sort of test driving. Dates have to be supervised. No sexually experimenting with each other to make sure you are truly compatible. One wouldn't buy a car, which is expected to be replaced after several years, without test driving it. Then why do they expect people to "buy" a marriage, which is not to be replaced ever, without test driving it in any way? Dates without supervision allow that testing it out to happen. Spending time together without anyone prying in is necessary to make sure the couple will be sexually and emotionally compatible before committing to marriage. So what if fornication happens at that stage?
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truthsetsonefree
Oh I know what this is like. Is "it" done with the lights off? Heck yeah. I am so glad to be leaving it. I wrote a bit about this earlier this year. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/126838/1.ashx Isaac
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lawrence
Marmot- "not 15 minutes for his friend." - Says it all.
JW Marriage - Options & Alternatives - What a "Theocratic Marriage!" -- Hell is better!
6:30 a.m. - Quickie, or read the Daily Text, do the windows at JoeBlow's Deli & Mooshi's Pub to be back for 9 a.m. FS meeting.
12 noon - Go home, have a quickie and a nap, or do the return visits and the 2 scheduled Bible Studies then prepare for Book Study and conduct.
6:30 p.m. - Quickie, or clean house for book study and arrange living room.
9 p.m. - Quickie, or prepare Thursday night instruction talk, service meeting part, and do accounts, magazines, and literature for Crooklyn.
12:15 a.m. - Quickie; or get some sleep, 5:30 comes quickly and there are 2 rug jobs and 3 window jobs before noon meeting for field service.
What a "Theocratic Marriage!" -- Hell is better!
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truthsetsonefree
What was said earlier about "test driving" match my thoughts exactly. I have now tried dating normally and it is such a different experience. One day (hopefully soon) I can talk more about it but my God, what the hell was I doing when I dated and married as a JW? Isaac
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nvrgnbk
what the hell was I doing when I dated and married as a JW?
You were trying to please the Almighty Sovereign of the Universe, Jehovah God.
Turns out we were wrong.
About so many things.
I hope things are working out well for you, Isaac.
Nate
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truthsetsonefree
Dude, I got to call you. So much is happening. Isaac
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Frequent_Fader_Miles
A "Theocratic" marriage? Sounds pretty "sterile" to me ... no joy, no fun, no excitement, no happiness, no companionship ... no nothing! Zzzzzzzzz.....
Just mere days of existence filled with field circus, meetings, meetings and more meetings, book study, personal study, pioneering, commenting .... blech!