I received an invite to go to a baby shower. No big deal normally, I love shopping for baby stuff, but this woman despises me. Seriously. She has ignored me everytime we meet. She was friends with my hubby when he was growing up, ended up marrying his best friend, and used to call my hubby several times a week and talk for over an hour about nothing(hubby works full time and goes to college, plus he has a 3 year old daughter). My husband really can't stand her anymore, since she has caused so much trouble for us. She even ruined the only recording of our wedding-she was in front of my brother while he was recording, saying how she couldn't believe it, we shouldn't be getting married, etc. She has no idea I have that on video. Now she want me to buy her a gift!
On top of that, she called my husband to tell him where she is registered and how "we need everything on the list". She is registered at three places, and has a 250$ IPOD on the list! AND a 80$ transformer! WTF!? This family is very poor, she refuses to work, her husband won't get a better job then he has because they don't want to lose food stamps, they live in a single wide 3 bedroom trailer with his mom, and already have one child. They got pregnant on purpose. Her husband did not want another kid, he knows they cannot afford it, but she threatned to leave him if he didn't get her pregnant. The baby is a boy, and will have to share a room with his 4 year old sister, that is about the size of an average walk in closet. Oh yeah, and they have no health insurance.
I am torn. I DO NOT want to go. She is clearly using me, and everyone else involved in this shower to get everything they need. They were completly irresponsible to get pregnant in the first place when they know they can't afford it. On the other hand, I feel sorry for the kid. He really is going to have it rough. Would getting a few boxes of diapers(there is only 2 on the registry, but an IPOD...) and some onesies be that bad? But I don't won't to encourage this attitude...
Suggestions?