.....whether they were family or not???
How Did You Personally Deal With Disfellowshipped Ones?
by minimus 22 Replies latest jw friends
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stillajwexelder
I have one that comes into work twice per week. I go out of my way to say hello and engage in conversation.
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minimus
Stilla, that's impressive and I'm sure appreciated.
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Bobbi
I was never comfortable with the shunning of DF'd ones. I always made a point of making eye contact and smiling if I saw one of the forsaken ones. I never avoided shops where they worked either. I guess that sounds really arrogant now, knowing what I know, but at the time it was the best I could do.
I always hated how people would hold a grudge against someone who was DF and reinstated, or just reproved. Years later I would hear "Oh you shouldn't get involved with that person cause they were publicly reproved 5 years ago".
A few weeks ago I saw a woman who was DF's several months ago. I really like this woman and was sorry to hear she was having a hard time. I tried to get the kids out of the van as fast as I could so I could go talk to her, but of course, I was too slow. NEXT TIME!!!!
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OUTLAW
Kids do as their told..I avoided them..They eat Children!..
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Burger Time
I always followed my Dad's example. He would greet ones who were DF'd at the hall our outside of the hall. He always asked how they were doing and encouraged them.
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momzcrazy
Burger, that's really cool of your dad.
When I was younger I didn't speak to them. But as an adult I have. For example, a young girl who was DF'd was having trouble with her new baby at meeting. Nobody acknowledged it. I took her and calmed her down, and gave some sage motherly advice on burping.
When I was DF'd a zillion years ago, I had family friends who were elders, etc still talk to me. They thought my DFing was wrong.
momzcrazy
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minimus
We were taught to be avoiding df'd ones. I had an aunt that were very barely talked to in the 1960s because she was the df'd black sheep of the family.
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Maddie
I knew a few who were df'd and I always smiled and said hello and felt awkward. I never had any family or close friends df'd so I wasn't faced with real emotional stuff. I think it is only when it really hits home that we realise the real impact of it on others and ourselves.
Maddie
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minimus
As an elder I'd talk to df'd ones but most JWs wouldn't ever talk to a df'd person for fear of being df'd themselves.
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