I will say that being around lesbians makes me very uncomfortable. I am very hetero. But, I also over the years have learned the value, the real value, of a family that loves you.
I will tell you this. My teen daughter did some normal teen things, and men that I trusted to love and be there for her chose to accuse her of things she did not do, call her a liar when she would not admit to them, spoke to her in the most demeaning and humiliating way, and made her read a scripture that God views her as filth, and that she will burn in the fire with the devil and his angels. Then they disfellowshipped her. Not one of them has attempted to ask about her after three years.
These men who called themselves spiritual shepherds could not care less about my family, and after years of putting my parents at a great distance, I finally realized that. It was too late as far as my dad was concerned. He died and I never told him I was proud of him, just smugly figured I shouldn't have alot of association because he was "worldly."
You said that you would leave your husband if he did not accept you becoming a witness. You are debating your sister being disfellowshipped and shunning her. If you treat all your family poorly, and need help, you will be the loser. The Witnesses will applaud you for leaving your husband, but do you think they will give you any monetary support if you need it? Do you think that if you become ill, or need a place to stay for an extended length of time, they will be better to you than your sister? Think again......in fact, think hard before you make any hasty decision to become baptised.
Ask questions now. Do research now. Please do not become so hardened in your heart.........