My JW father, I bet he's dissapointed in my ass!

dawg

I was just sitting here laughing, thinking about how disapointed my father must be in me... What? For figuring out it's all crap?

That's what tortures me the most, I really didin't want to let anyone down, but damn, how long could I lie to myself?

I mean, It was all torture, but damn, what was I supposed to do? Not say shit and let others in my famiily suffer? I couldn't live with that... but why do they all believe it? I mean, building mansions for returning "worthies" isn't that alone enough to let you know that these guys were shit?

What do you guys think?

Gopher

Dawg,

I hear you. I know my parents are "disappointed" in me. I think though that is programmed into them. They have artificial values, artificial goals, and artificial family. So to me, their disappointment (though they think it is deep) really is artificial.

If you believe you can help open up some eyes in your family, then you gotta do it so as to have no regrets for not having tried.

However, most JW's are well-trained to ignore most of the unpleasant details about their organization's past. The main thing that helped most ex-JW's leave was the lack of love in there. The other stuff like past history usually comes later in the opening of their minds. (Not always, just mostly.)

Mum

Easier said than done, but don't worry 'bout it. It is so frustrating to realize that people are disappointed because you have honesty and integrity -- the real kind from within, not imposed by some narcissistic, arbitrary, authoritarian autocrats. You have to live with yourself, buddy, not your dad. That's the ultimate reward.

Ever your admirer,

SandraC

flipper

They believe it because they are under the influence of cult mind control. If your dad was under the influence of his right mind, he would not dissapprove of you. But somebody else has control of his mind. My parents are controlled too, Dawg. I know my mom is proud of me, and respects me no matter what, but my elder father would have wanted me to prosper as a drone in the witnesses. He'll get over it. Hang in bro, Peace out, they are just blinded, Mr. Flipper

dawg

I thank you both for what you've said, but I actually thought it was funny... I mean, it's amost like he's dissapointed that I'm not an idiot.... Ok so I've had a few, but that was actully funnier eariler in my mind.

dawg

He'll get over it! That's clasic Flipper! I loved it!

Open mind

What's your "drink du jour" Dawg?

I'll join you when I get home from work.

BTW, I feel what your sayin' about your Dad. Only I've not "let him down". I've maintained the charade. So far.

Open Mind

momzcrazy

My sister and I were just discussing our mom's reaction when she finds out I've left, taking her Grandkids with me. She'll be fine, she'll lap up all the sympathy from her "friends". Somehow she managed to get in with the elite of the cong. Of course Dad's dead, but he came to me the other day. I felt his approval.

momz

dawg

Open mind, I'm having a Jack Danilels and Ginger.... and a "happy brownie"....

ex-nj-jw

I hear ya dawg.

I know my parents are disappointed in me. It's sad because they don't even see all I've accomplished in my life, my children, my marraige, my nursing degree not to mention the volunteer work I do and the support I provide young girls and women who may not have had family support or who have had children that they are raising on their own (not financial support but emotional support and helping them to succeed and make more out of their lives so that their children can have a better life)

All they see is the fact that I'm not a JW. But I've let all that go and I don't try to prove myself to them anymore. I know I'm a good person and a much better person than I could have ever been if I were a JW. Don't beat yourself up, there comes a time when you have to be happy with who you are and not what other people want you to be.

nj

My JW father, I bet he's dissapointed in my ass!

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