Yes, absolutely and I completely regret it on a par with my dad dying!
Were you pressured into marrying/having children young?
by breakingfree 16 Replies latest jw friends
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Junction-Guy
In Ohio marriage was discouraged, in fact dating was discouraged. The ultimate goal was to remain single and serve the cult wholheartedly.
For me I was discouraged from even thinking about women, the normal things that most teenage boys take for granted, well I was denied that.
It was only after I got away from the JW's that I was able to pursue a female partner.
But the one thing that really pushed me into marriage was the 1914 generation lie, I was rushing around trying my hardest to hurry up and get married in case it was true and I would be destroyed.
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Rooster
No, I married a "Worldly" girl I had met on the beach. We have been married for 20 years now. No children.
OF COURSE I WAS DISFELLOWSHIPPED!
Reinstated 4 months later..
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penny2
I had it drummed into me to "cultivate the gift of singleness" blah blah blah. I was actively prevented from having a JW boyfriend and eventually fell in love with a non-JW. Got caught out though and that messed me up for a few years.
Fast forward to now .... no man and no kids .... but I'm free from slavery to the WTS. I'm thankful for that every day.
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Junction-Guy
That is sad penny2, and somewhat similar to my situation. But it's a blessing you are out of that Cult.
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ninja
I was so backward that shortly after I had started masturbating ......I got an infection where my hand swelled up.....and thought I had got my hand pregnant......I bought it fancy gloves
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breakingfree
Sounds like it depends on the atmoshpere of the particular congregation... so much for unity. At the end of the day I'd rather be teased about engagement/marriage/children than counselled against a relationship, although that might have caused me to get out sooner...
Its sad to hear that many of our major choices in life have all been drastically affected by what others in the congregation pushed, because we thought they were wise and had our best interests at heart even if they did it's not until you step back you realise how crazy you were to let other people manage your life on such personal matters. Its infuriating to think back on just how involved I let people get in my personal life who had no right to be there . I'm sure many of you feel the same after your experiences. I empathise with you all.
Ninja, that's incredibly sad and funny at the same time. Hope you figured it out before you told your parents..