Missing friends

by purplesofa 26 Replies latest jw friends

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    Over the years I have made many friends online that are JW's.

    When my doubts were such with the organization that I was full on posting here, little by little I withdrew from my JW friends online and in person. No explanation, I Have not responded to emails over time, and just let those friendships die down.

    Out of respect.......I felt sneaky in my researching the organization and just was not sure where my thoughts and feelings were going to land.

    Today, I unblocked someone on my messenger to chat with them. We caught up. I have never met him in person. His name is Paul. When I first met him online he was a good standing JW. He is from Australia. He has a brother that has spina bifida-confined to a wheelchair, who was baptised in a bathtub in his home, which, aftewards, they called me from OZ, like at 3am!!!, still wet from baptism and I got to welcome him as my new brother!

    Anyway, Paul was DF for some time in our friendship, I still emailed him from time to time and caught up with him on msn messenger. I hated shunning, even as a JW I never understood what good it did. So, if you were my friend and DF I did not shun. I would encourage him to get reinstated ........we lived across the continents, friends that never met, unlikely that we ever would, but many times we ended our conversations........remember, we have a lunch date in paradise!!!! He eventually did get reinstated. His wifes family was featured in a WT magazine a few years ago.

    Paradise~~~~~~It kept us going, gave us hope.

    I can't stop crying right now, I miss so many. I am wondering if I should contact my old JW list and explain. The very thought of having total severing hurts alot. For all I know some could be out and I dont know it. There are some really good, loving people in the organization. Afterall, weren't we?

    missing friends,

    purps

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    It's not the way it is supposed to be. Friendships should be forever - even though they may ebb and flow some. The WTS has taken so much from all of us in that regard. I hope you contact them, purps.

    [[[[[[[[[[purps]]]]]]]]]]]]]]

    Jeff

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    To me they are still my friends, I don't hold anything against them, They will always be in my heart. I just really miss some of them today

    Thanks Jeff

    purps

  • AnneB
    AnneB

    Don't ever give up hope.

    I have some issues of my own that I deal with and my "final answer" is that this is the baking stage....all we need to do is sit back and wait. Our part in the process has been accomplished....just wait for the results.

    (There's no emoticon for a hug...consider one sent!)

  • Open mind
    Open mind

    Purps:

    There are some really good, loving people in the organization. Afterall, weren't we?

    So much pointless pain.

    When I was a loyal, somewhat-believing JW it would rip my heart out when a friend would get DFed or fade. I think as a JW I put this kind of pain in the same category as unavoidable pains of life like losing someone to cancer or an auto accident. Knowing it's all based on stupid man-made rules makes it even harder.

    ((((((( purps )))))))

    Open Mind

  • John Doe
    John Doe

    Friends are overrated.

  • Good Girl or Bad Girl?
    Good Girl or Bad Girl?

    I know how you feel, purps. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((purps))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  • sweet pea
    sweet pea

    (((Purps)))

    I know how you feel, I get these days all the time.

    There's no escaping grief and mourning the loss of precious friendships - it's not natural to lose these friends totally - especially when they're all still alive, it is natural to feel grief so don't beat yourself up about it, ride it, it makes you human. But don't give up hope - I've been making contact with old friends I haven't seen for 15/20 years and it feels great.

    You'll never replace those friends you still miss though and who are still die-hards, it comes with the territory, but there is always hope.

    Feeling your pain, hang in there.

    We love you.

    SP

  • ninja
    ninja

    try to cheer up woman......apples of gold in silver carvings ninja.......

  • momzcrazy
    momzcrazy

    Friends are wonderful, jd, and losing them is awful. I know your just covering a tender heart with all that machismo.

    My only friend left from JW days is still my best friend. She lives in Idaho. We've been friends for 18 yrs. I explained my decision to her and said I would understand if she wouldn't talk to me anymore, but just know that I'll love you anyway. She said I was smokin crack, stop sounding stupid.

    It was scary setting my heart out there but I was very pleased with the result. Isn't that what love and friendship is, putting your heart on the line. It's scary sometimes.

    Hugs to you purps,

    momz

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