Were You Approachable in the Congregation?

by compound complex 25 Replies latest jw friends

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  compound complex

  Greetings: RF, LOT, Tij, Changeling and Bro Apo,

  Isn't it ironic - if that at all - that older ones often do approach those much younger than themselves for advice and comfort? Yet, in other circumstances, those who appreciate our help and benefit from it have relatives who are pushed out of shape by our "interference" in their family matters. Unfortunately, too, we have gotten overly involved emotionally (though well-intended) with a distraught individual and have crossed into forbidden territory. And how comforting to have a shoulder to cry on! Lastly, the questions posed were all highlighted and received affirmative answers!

  This is as good as it gets ... (I am very easy to please!)

  Thank you, Friends, for being so approachable.

  CoCo
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  LongHairGal

  No. There is a reason for this.

  In the beginning, before my several rude awakenings, I was as open as open can be. I was a real idiot, caught up in the 'real' love (love bombing). I was drinking it all in. Then, that fateful day came that my eyes were opened with regard to this judgmental works-related 'religion'.

  From that point onward I became less and less approachable and had to do so for my own protection. For one thing, anything you said was used against you. I couldn't be myself. After having my intelligence insulted, nosey people picking my brains and people overstepping their boundaries, I spoke my mind as it became necessary. Of course, people didn't like the fact that I wouldn't allow myself to be manipulated. I guess I became unpopular and I believe possibly 'marked' by a few who I would never miss.

  In all honesty, most of the times I was approached was for the wrong reason...somebody wanted a favor.

  LHG
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  Finally-Free

  People approached me all the time when they wanted to extract something from me - money, gift, favour, help moving, free computer repair - but for the most part people talked about me, not to me.

  W
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  compound complex

  Dear Finally and LHG,

  Your stories are a sad but true commentary on the reality of life in the "spiritual paradise." Gossip, manipulation, demand for favors (JW entitlement), etc. It sure is good to be where we are now.

  Thanks for your thoughts ...

  CoCo
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  snowbird

  Yes, I was approachable by old and young. They knew if they told me something in confidence, it would not get out.

  Even some of the elders confided in me!

  The teachings of Jesus and the Person that he was guided me in all my dealings. Do I have to state that I was not looked on with approval by some?

  Sylvia
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  RubaDub

  I was ... and continue to be ... (even though not an MS now) ... always approachable by well-endowed sisters.

  Rub a Dub