I went to the furneral...guess who was there?!?!?

by loosie 15 Replies latest jw experiences

  • loosie
    loosie

    I flew to CA with my dad to go to my brothers furneral. I met up with some family members who I've kept in contact with but hadn't seen for a few years. I also saw my mom who I purposely have not had contact with for 10 years. She is a JW. The rest of my family is normal and not JW's.

    So I was sitting the room where the services were to be held waiting for them to start. Then about 6 people came in who were not family, all carrying their copies of the new world translation bible. obviously they were invited by my mother. One of them came up to me and asked me if I was "loosie" I said yes I am. she said " I thought so because I saw a picture of you your mother was showing me yesterday" I have never met any of these JW's before. There was no reason for the JW's to be there. My brother was df'd in 1975 and no one but my mother is a jw.

    Well it was just me and them in this room. All my normal family was outside waiting for the rest of our family to arrive. I went out to my nephew (we are the same age and mindset) and I said "Lord save me from your followers. I think they are going to start to have bookstudy in there because they brought their bibles."

    So my mom shows up. I had my arm around my brothers daughter trying to keep her all in one piece. My mom comes up and hugs her. So I said hello to my mother and she ignored me. I let it go. This is not the time or the place for drama.

    So after the services I went up to my mom and hugged her along with my sister in law. Afterwards we went to my sister in laws to hang out and eat. My nephew and I were looking at my brothers photo album from the 70's there were a lot of pics of us in there and a lot of good memories. My mother came up to me and said "Oh I didn't recognize you" So hugging her and saying hi twice before she didn't recognize me. but yet someone who never met me before who only saw a picture of me the night before could tell who I was.

    She didn't even speak to my father her husband for over 13 years. Man this woman can hold a grudge.

    When it came time to eat. she sat in a corner by herself. even after her grandaughter and her eldest daughter invited her to come sit with the rest of us.

    Boy am I glad to be among the normal people again.

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    Funerals are freaky.

    Glad you are back and all is well.

    hugs,

    purps

  • moshe
    moshe
    My mother came up to me and said "Oh I didn't recognize you" So hugging her and saying hi twice before she didn't recognize me. but yet someone who never met me before who only saw a picture of me the night before could tell who I was.

    When JW's say something like that I tell them, " you need to stop lying- liars will not be in the new system will they?"

    Sorry your mother couldn't see herself in a mirror- JW's are weird.

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket
    My mother came up to me and said "Oh I didn't recognize you"

    I think that I would of been prompted to say "that's because you're in that cult"! "Are you proud of yourself or something?"

  • sweetstuff
    sweetstuff

    (((Hugs))) Loosie, so sorry to hear about your brother and your mother. It really is too bad, she can't see how she really is.

  • nvrgnbk
    nvrgnbk

    Wow.

    She's not well.

    You handled yourself very well, loosie.

    Sorry for your loss.

  • Abandoned
    Abandoned
    When it came time to eat. she sat in a corner by herself. even after her grandaughter and her eldest daughter invited her to come sit with the rest of us.

    Makes you feel so warm and toasty toward that wonderful God, Jehovah, whose heart she's making rejoice, doesn't it?

  • sspo
    sspo

    Sorry about your loss.

    About your mother, she is only acting as a typical JW that have rejected sons,daughters,husbands for the sake of the watchtower.

    Our disgust should be toward the wicked Governing Body and their policy of shunning.

    I always keep in mind that most of us on this board behaved just like your mother in shunning others, 32 years of my life.

  • loosie
    loosie
    About your mother, she is only acting as a typical JW that have rejected sons,daughters,husbands for the sake of the watchtower.

    But the weird thing. She doesn't know that I don't go to meetings. because I haven't talked to her in 10 years and I stopped going to meetings about 4 years ago. She seems fine with my sister who, she calls when she needs something. She goes shopping with my sister in law about every 6 months or so. and when she needed a place to live she called my DF'd brother who she kicked out of the house when eh was 18 for being df'd. and he found her a place to live. He was a better person than I would have been I would have told her I didn't know her.

    My dad has never been a JW. she married him out of the truth. But she cna't talk to him either?!?!?! She follows the rules only when it suits her.

  • flipper
    flipper

    Loosie- I'm so sorry for your loss my friend. You really handled it very maturely with your mother and quite admirably I might add ! I know that had to be extremely tense and unnerving to deal with witness family , but I bet it makes you appreciate being out of it even more and see how dignified you carried yourself, as opposed to your mother ? Good job sis, and once again my wife and my condolences. Peace to you friend, Mr. Flipper

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