sad that happened, hope all is well loosie.
I went to the furneral...guess who was there?!?!?
by loosie 15 Replies latest jw experiences
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Hortensia
I thought about this and had to come back to it. I'm glad you hugged your mother - just think of her attending her son's funeral - and thinking that because of her god she really shouldn't talk to or show affection to the rest of the family. She sat in a corner eating alone - that's sad and it's the religion's fault, the doctrine taught by those guys in NY to whom legality means more than love.
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mouthy
My dear dear sister, I am so sorry for your loss. Not only of your Brother ,but your Mum. Forgive her she knows not what she is doing. She didnt eat with you because THEY tell them they mustn't
She THINKS she is serving her god.... You were a great gal to hug her anyway. I admire you for that ((HUG)))
Mouthy
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changeling
I'm trully sorry about your brother's passing.
As mouthy said, your mom thinks she is serving her god and doing the right thing.
Also, she has just lost a child. There is no greater grief than that. Perhaps she is not thinking clearly because of her pain.
changeling
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loosie
Thnak you everyone for your kind comments.
Also, she has just lost a child. There is no greater grief than that. Perhaps she is not thinking clearly because of her pain.
I agree. Nothing that I can think of can be harder than losing your child. I lost my son when he was 4. I'm sure losing your son when he is 53 isn't any easier.
Unfortunately. my mom acts like this even when there is no trauma. She makes things about her. needing attention and sympathy. When her son gets Ds it's " how could he do that to me" instead of wow what can I do to help.
When my brother's 14 year old daughter ( her grandaughter) hugged her goodbye. mom said "don't worry honey God will cause this to be all over soon." Man when I heard her say that I really had to restrain myself. That isn't a comforting thought. I mean where was god that day he killed himself? Sleeping on the job or what. How is thinking about God killing billions in armageddon a comforting thought when you dad just died?
Sometimes I think mom needs a good shaking up.
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horrible life
Loosie, I am so sorry for the way your mom treated you. But you being there, seeing other loving family members, you haven't seen in awhile, and helping them through this, as well as the others helping you, was a blessing for them and you. That is what your brother would have wanted.