What DOES DAing say to a JW? (page 2)

sweet pea

I know that the society do not make the distinction anymore when announcing you are no longer a witness.

However, if you got to everyone first and told them you were disassociating yourself because you didn't believe it anymore (strictly no more detail than that) then even thought the announcement is the same, the important people would know the real situation.

Surely some would start to think and not assume i) you are an apostate or ii) you want to just go and do something immoral ?

momzcrazy

I'm hoping that DAing myself will prevent them from bothering me. I told Mom I'd left on Tuesday and had an elder from here calling yesterday. Mom is an hour away. I know for a fact the local bros saw me Halloween decorated house, but no one had called or come over. But I call Mom and they start calling two days later. Hmmm...

I don't care if they DF me, mom isn't talking to me anymore anyway.

momz

sweet pea

I know that the society do not make the distinction anymore when announcing you are no longer a witness.

However, if you got to everyone first and told them you were disassociating yourself because you didn't believe it anymore (strictly no more detail than that) then even thought the announcement is the same, the important people would know the real situation.

Surely some would start to think and not assume i) you are an apostate or ii) you want to just go and do something immoral ?

R.F.

It depends on what kind of Dub each individual is. Some think that every person that DAs themself is heavily influenced by Satan....one of his pawns. Some think that the person is just temporarily weak, perhaps from some sin. Others that may be on the fence themselves may wonder if the person that DAs has figured out all of the crap also and decided to make a clean break.

Unfortunately, as others have mentioned already, the announcement change causes others to automatically think you are disfellowshipped. I say the only way to get around that is send out letters to others telling them why you DAed(as someone mentioned this already too), or........going out with a bang and announcing it during a talk or something.

R.F.

sweet pea

Oooh R.F. if I had my time again, I'd love to have given a talk and then turned to the audience and said "well that's the last talk you'll hear from me because I don't believe in any of this anymore and I'm not coming back - BYE!"

How cool would that have been? :-)

R.F.

VERY cool.

I'm really thinking about doing it myself. The only problem is that my parents are in the same congregation and it might come off as me being an angry apostate.

LouBelle

An engrained JW will not think on their own - no way, because they have no reason too, unless THEY themselves find that something doesn't sit well and they start their own search. You cannot reason with the witnesses - remember we used to be there but something (thank god) happened (a lot of the time unpleasent) and we had to start thinking for ourselves.

exwitless

or........going out with a bang and announcing it during a talk or something.

R.F. and sweet pea:

Surely you know of Little Toe's story (?) That's exactly what he did. If you haven't read it, somewhere on the board he posted the word-for-word talk he gave ending in his DA announcement. It's a good read!

R.F.

A friend referred me to Little Toe's story. That's where I got the idea from. It's a pretty good one.

wings

I didn't know about Little Toe's ending talk. I'll have to look that up. That sounds like the perfect way to go.

I agree a well written letter to a few selected friends would be the only way to have a chance of being heard. No matter what, there is a small window of opportunity before the apostate label appears and the curtains close.

As a successful fader, I am so tired of being viewed as "spiritually weak". I am feeding their superiority complex with my silence. Someday I plan to write a letter, but I also want to tell my father-in-law off. I have to do it at the same time because the later could get me DF'd (only because I would be attacking his particular brand of JW ism). I don't have hope that it would make a difference. I just have to try, for my sake if nothing else.

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