Seasonal Stress Gettin' to You? This is your thread to unload- Feel Free !

by flipper 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  flipper

  So my dear friends, how are you all doing ? It's well known that the holidays seem to bring out more than the usual stress in people. We see various manifestations of it even in the news. Sadly, we saw just a couple of days ago what pressure can do to the extreme when a young man took 8 lives plus his own in Omaha, Nebraska . If perhaps he had more people who really cared and he didn't fall through the cracks in the mental health system, perhaps the shootings could have been avoided by more proactive interaction with him.

  So , this is a thread we can all unload on. So, I want to know how you are feeling ? As you all know I have had stress dealing with my son and his witness mother harassing him . He is handling it good, but it stresses him. So what things are going on in your life that are making you folks stressed right now? I thought that if we each, whoever feels comfortable sharing, the various stresses we are each dealing with , then perhaps we will understand each others vantage point more , and get a better understanding of each other so we can empathize !

  All replies are welcome ! Serious stresses you have, funny comical situations which might lighten the mood of the thread too ! I know there has been some tension among some of our friends lately , so if we open up and communicate about life and stresses , maybe we will see our fellow JWD friend has some weirder stresses than ourselves , and it will open a dialogue between all of us. I love all you guys and the spirit of courage you each show ! My wife and myself are honored to be in your company , so please feel free, let it rip, unload already, and it will help all of us with stress ! All I ask is you keep it sedated enough to not get locked down on the thread , so we can hear everyones stories that are tensing them out. This could be a fun thread and serious thread both, but it's good to feel all the emotion and experience it, not bury it. So, Peace out all, and I look forward to your comments! Love, Mr. & Mrs. Flipper
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  Happy Harvester

  I'm feeling very depressed.

  I've been working two days a week since I got out of the hospital about a month ago.

  I thought I was hired to work for someone this evening, but have not heard back.

  I am not enjoying the job search.

  There's very little worth writing a paragraph about, as far as the job hunt goes.

  I guess I'd better go back to college in January.

  There's nothing else to do.

  Except give up.
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  momzcrazy

  Don't give up. Ever seen Finding Nemo? Just keep on swimmin', keep on swimmin'. That Dora is a genius.

  I am only stressed because I am watching my sister's GF's 2 yr old while they go to an Xmas party, and auntie crazy is sleepy!!!

  

  momz
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  AWAKE&WATCHING
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  flipper

  Thanks for the replies. It helps me get to know you better, and we can give each other a little cheering up in the process !

  HAPPY HARVESTER- Don't give up my friend ! It's never fun looking for a job especially this time of year, but have you considered branching out into avenues of work that are different ? Ask yourself what you enjoy doing ? What other skills do you have that you wouldn't mind pursuing in emploment ? Just a few questions you might think about . College sounds like a good idea in Janruary though. Hang in there, keep your chin up, something will pan out.

  MOMZCRAZY- Oh yeah! The terrible twos they call it ! LOL! They can really be a handful. I know mine were when they were that age ! Good luck on that one .

  AWAKE & WATCHING- Hope you are well sis ! Hang in there my friend. Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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  jaguarbass

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  Hello Flipper, My stress is I am a detention officer in a certain unnamed state. Since I was raised a witnoid, I got to be 55 years old without a college education and this is the best job I can find. And no matter how much I have prayed this is the best job I come up with. It's like no one is or has been listening to my prayers all my life.

  Maybe I am praying for my selfish wants and needs and not the kingdumb.

  Anyway the best I can come up with is this detention officer job in this unnamed state. And the state is so corrupt and run by gangsters that they try to force me to work 40 hours a week plus an extra 16 hours which is 2 double shifts starting at 10:30 at night 23:50 hours till 2:30 in the afternoon. A total of 56 hours a week. When am I supposed to sleep and live my life? And when I protest I am told I have a bad attitude and am not dedicated to my job. Thank you Jehober for leading me to this paradise.

  Then I hear about other people who work 70 hours a week. And I think maybe I have it good. Thank you Jehober. Still working from 10:30 at night till 2:30 in the afternoon really stresses me out and to have to do it twice in a week and be told I have a bad attitude because I dont want to.

  And then being up all night from 10:30 pm and having to wrestle inmates to the ground at 11am is stressfull, I think I'll have another Ice house now.

  They are 18 year old juveniles so we cant tazer, mace or shoot them, I have to wrestle them and God forbid not hurt them.

  Thats about as stressful as my life has gotten. And to not be able to see things getting better thats stressful also.

  I would like to be able to make enough money to pay my bills in 40 hours. But it seems the Jehovah Witness experience killed that idea.

  I started this job 2 years ago after I lost a job making tools because America imports everything nowadays. I made tools for 25 years. I feel into that through a friend at the kinddumb hall. It was something you could do without a college education. Nowadays everything in Amerika is made in China Assia, Russia. Places where they can pay workers a bowl of rice instead of a living wage.

  Maybe they will start making things in Amerika again soon, because nobody I know make a wage they can live on.

  So tonight I played a rock and roll show and drank about a case of beer to relieve my stress.

  I know in my right mind drinking doesnt solve anything but I really have no idea how to deal with my problem and Jehober is dealing with me like he has the rest of creation. He appears to be out to lunch and I'm on my own.

  I think I would have been much better off if my mother never brought home a Wactower Magazine.

  Why couldnt she have given me a subscription to playboy or hustler.

  I'm not one to complain but you asked, Mr. Flipper.
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  flipper

  JAGUAR BASS- Hey Jags, good to hear from you buddy ! You are right, I did ask and I am glad I did . I'm here to listen , bud. I can relate to the freaking weird schedule you have to a point, I don't work as many hours, but I do commercial janitorial and have a weird schedule. A couple nights each week I work from 1:30 A.M to 9:00 A.M. and every Sunday night I work from 2:00 P.M. in the afternoon Sunday to about 3:00 A.M. Monday morning, so it is weird. The other 2 nights aren't so bad, 5:00 A.M. till 9:00 A.M. in the morning . I too didn't get a college education and am 48 years old doing commercial janitorial self-employed now for 25 years .

  I feel for you. Having to wrestle 18 year old guys is no fun when you have been working all night anyway. Sucks. I bet you are exhausted ! In my early work years I saw what it was to work for corrupt bosses who want to use us and wear us out. It's one reason I became self-employed. To call my own shots.

  You are right, the religion which enslaved us did not do us any favors in our " work education " process that is for sure. I love rock music too, like you. I enjoy singing with my 22 year old son while he plays guitar . Music is a great stress reliever, it has always been a part of my life too ! Drinking is a stress reliever too ! I might not drink a case, but I've been known to have a few beers or knock a few glasses of wine down . It does relax a person. My wife said to tell you that your humor is your saving grace too ! She liked your comment, " Wish my mom would have brought me Playboy magazines instead of the Watchtower. " That was great ! Probably would have educated you more!

  I think your saving grace though buddy, is your humor, and playing your music, and a cocktail to relax with too ! I would keep that relax technique up my friend ! It will help you deal with stress and get ya through the hard times. Peace out to you buddy, Mr. Flipper
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  flipper

  Hello my JWD friends, thought I'd bump this thread up if anyone felt like venting any stressful things they are going through right now, or lately. This is your thread my friends so feel free . We will see what comments we get to help us all ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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  Maddie

  This has been a very difficult and emotional year for me and to be honest I am feeling low in myself. It feels like I am fighting all the time just to cope with every day life and I am tired with it all. I always try to hide how I am really feeling by putting on a brave face because I don't like to go on a self-pity trip. Sometimes I get the urge to drown my sorrows with alcohol but for me that would mean breaking my lengthy sobriety and only lead to catastrophe. All my life I have felt different and alone, from the time my parents died when I was still a child and having to get by without any help or support. When I became a JW I thought I had found something wonderful, but it all turned out to be a huge deceptive cult that want to punish me for knowing what they are by taking my son and grand daughter away from me. I have been told that I am a strong woman and I guess I am, but sometimes I feel very fragile inside.

  Maddie
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  flipper

  MADDIE- Hey girl, nice to hear from you my friend. I'm sorry you have had a rough year sis ! It really does get to be a challenge sometimes. I too thought I really had something growing up in the witnesses. But felt constantly pressured to live up to the legacy my elder dad, and elder older brother left for me to " reach out" for position . It took me till 40 years of age to stop trying to please my dad . Realized I was happy in myself. Like you, I too have 2 daughters 20 and 19 who will not talk to me, won't return my calls , or return my letters I write them . Amazing how cruel "devoted " witnesses can be. I just want you to know I care , and am here if you ever need to talk either with me or my wife Mrs. Flipper . I will pm you our numbers.

  One thing I am doing is reading the book, " Combatting Cult Mind Control" by Steve Hassan . One poster I know here in California was able to get his witness mother out of the witnesses by using the tecniques in that book to reason with her. And she had been a witness 20 years. So, I am reading that book hoping I can learn some positive methods to use to get my daughters out of the cult in time. So, it might be something to think about sis . Just remember we care and are here if you want to talk or write even. Peace to you my friend, hang in, Mr. Flipper