Who else has zero friends? (page 2)

Carmel

friendships are earned not bequethed. You have to extend yourself in genuine acts of concern, kindness, interest with enthusiasm and joy. Life will reward you with an instant reflection of new friends.... carmel

Mincan

I'm having problem meeting people that are acceptable association (don't read that wrong, you know what I mean) in my books and that are easily accessible to me.

They are all either toxic (ex. family, people I meet through hospital "groups") or inaccessable (ex. fellow JWDers that don't live near me).

oldflame

I thank God everyday for my friends and I have lots of them. I don't know what I'd do without them in my life. Try going out to places where others hang out at, there are all kinds of things and places you can go where you can meet others. And hey you got a heck of a lot of friends here....

tika

You are young and you will go out into the world of work in year or two and find people you have more in common with. I don't keep in touch with anyone I went to school with. The people in my life that I consider actual "friends" are few and far between because I don't trust very easily and it takes someone a long time of me knowing them to feel close and consider them a true friend. I am ok with that, I would rather have one true friend in this screwed up world than a million acquaintances, but that's just me. My son is the same way. Some of his teachers bug me about him being anti social. He is a homebody and is doesn't mind being alone or home with me and his step dad. I don't think there is a thing wrong with that. When you are young, your so called "friends" can sometime get you in a heap of trouble. Hope this helps, and don't feel too lonely. You just need to put some time between you and your mistakes, believe me, in a few years it won't even matter... you'll be onto bigger and better things!!

Priest73

"Uhhhh.....eclipse?" BuzzyBee, Did I miss something?

sweetface2233

Two years ago I would have been able to jump in this thread and say, "ME, I have ZERO friends". But today, I cannot.

I am 30 years old and have lived in the DC area for going on 10 years now. I am used to people coming and going in my life, but just this year I have been able to meet people w/ some actual substance. I now have some REAL friends; friends who call and see how I am doing; friends who make sure they see me at least once a week; friends who can tell something is bothering me just by hearing my voice. One girl I met on craigslist; she responded to a rant I wrote about a sleazy guy that I dated a few years ago and the others I met in an XJW group on meet-up.com. I have met a few others here, but giving time zones and distance, it is difficult to maintain intimate friendships, but we are trying.

Give it some time. Just when you give up all hope, friends will start making an appearance.

Finally-Free

I have one real friend who I met on this board. I could probably have more, but after 20 friendless years as a JW I'm just not used to being around people a lot. Mostly I stay home don't really have any social life to speak of.

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joannadandy

Instead of dwelling on the past and feeling poorly about being alone - learn to enjoy it. Learn to like spending time with your favorite person (you) and people will be naturally drawn to that. I am curious - if you know you burned bridges - and it obviously bothers you - why not start with the old friends and at the very least - if you can't patch it up - make amends. It might help you move forward into new friendships if you have a truly clean slate to start with.

daniel-p

tsunami.......... When I began my fade over a year ago I knew I was sacrificing a couple friendships. It's just one of the things I lost. Now, my wife is my only friend, which is nice, but sometimes I feel the need to have some peers. I went through college and made a few good friends, but like your wrokmates, they seem more like aquantances than "friends." I think part of this is their never having to deal with the WTS CULTure and leaving it. To this day I often feel lonely, but with work and everything, life keeps you busy. Still, seeking out and nurturing friendships is a good thing to do. I don't think it gets easier when you get older, because everyone is busier and doesnt have time to just hang out. You have to actively seek out friendship and put yourself on the line.

BizzyBee

"Uhhhh.....eclipse?" BuzzyBee, Did I miss something?

Prolly, Priest. Just as well.

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