If Your Aged Parent Asked U Not To Give Them Blood, Would U Agree? (page 3)

Nosferatu

Yup, the ol' bag can die. I'll be better off.

NewYork44M

I was in this situation. My father had a stroke and was on dyalysis. It was clear that the doctor would be ordering blood. I initiated the discussion to make sure he was not transfused.

It was the right thing to do. He was dying and in this case blood was not going to save him. There was no need to add any additional burden on him during his last days.

yknot

This is a tough one and totally dependent on the circumstances and the recent mindset of the persons.

For example recently while visiting my Grandmother she had a heart attack right in front of me. She has always stated not to "save" her, she has strict DNR papers. She was ready to go when the LORD called. I reacted on my own accord and called EMS, kept her lucid and talking. I was 'slow' on getting to the hospital with all the calls alerting family and gathering her meds and DNR papers. The hospital stabilized her enough to have her transported to a Heart Hospital before I got there. Before I reached the other hospital 100 miles away she had already been to surgery and stented.

The ending: She is happy to be alive! She adjusted her thinking to accept that the Lord was preparing her for greater things and put me there to make sure his plan was carried out. The DNR is now only for vegetative states.

My mom still is clinging to the blood thing, she knows I will disregard the matter but keeps me as her POA. Reason: It won't be her fault she said no, but I decided to overrule. Life is meant to be held precious and if a JW is given blood because of POA overriding they are not guilty or automatically DAd. I will happily play the "bad guy"

joannadandy

My JW parents made my JW aunt and uncle their power of attorney - just in case.

My sister was pissed. At first I was a little hurt. I like to think in that situation I would respect their wishes - as others have said, I want them to respect mine - I must be then willing to do the same...but then I was just thankful. I'm glad in the heat of the moment it's not something I even have to consider.

Mincan

Haha, I love that reasoning...

Younglove1999

I would respect their wishes-

However, I know my parents are so confused with the whole component/blood fractions thing that they just decided to not accept ANYTHING.

So if they get bit by a poisonous snake and need a shot that contains a blood compenant in order to save them, I'd have a VERY difficult time telling the Dr's not to give it to them

stillajwexelder

I try to respect peoples wishes especially my parents. I am an executor of my parents will - so I am legally obliged to respect their wishes

AudeSapere

I would absolutely respect their wishes just as I wish they would respect mine.

That said however, I would not make a huge ordeal out of refusing. I would simply state that my parent's wish is to have no blood. I would not threaten legal action if the medical team somehow did administer blood.

My dad had by-pass surgery about 3 or 5 years ago and asked me and my siblings to respect his decision (he's a walk-away believer, of sorts). I told him I would but also asked him to complete an AMD (Advance Medical Directive). He did so and updated his will at the same time. Having his specific wishes regarding blood and numerous other issues in writing in his own hand would help us 'kids' act more in harmony with the stated document and ourselves. It would leave less to interpretation and let us rest easier if something dire happened.

He continues to do well and the AMD is still valid.

Thanks for the thread. I, too, was surprised to see so many respondents feel the same as I do.

-Denise.

SWALKER

Definately! They are as intitled to their rights as I am to mine! I asked my 2 sons what they wanted me to do...1 said yes the other no. I will respect their wishes also. (They are both over 21!)

Swalker

Finally-Free

I don't have to agree with someone's decisions in order to recognize their right to make them. Even though I was an "apostate" I was my mom's PA because she wanted to be assured that she wouldn't be given blood. She didn't believe my never-JW sisters would comply with her wishes. Thankfully, the blood issue never came up. She also didn't want "extreme measures" to be used to keep her alive. Telling the doctor to let her go was the hardest thing I ever had to do.

W

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