I am someone who has been on both sides of this dilemma. When i first came here . i definitely did not want to be outed, at least not initially. This was for two primary reasons.
1. Like many i have close family in the wts - Wife and 14y daughter.
2. Although being a long term fader (10years) i was not comfortable enough to deal with a JC.
My position has changed , my wife now knows i post here (good advice jgnat) and I told her if the wts came after me i do not care.. i now feel comfortable enough to deal with the wts should the need arise. The change has been helped by the time spent here and friends i have made here.
Because i did want to protect my privacy and i have very close family in, my advice would be, to be sure that you are comfortable dealing with the consequences should you be outed here..
This makes me sick that grown up( yes i am 51) people have to behave like this but we have to deal with it.
Regards David