Blood Type

by Christina77 28 Replies latest watchtower medical

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  mommy

  Christina,
  I can't help but jump in here and give a bit of advice. Take it or leave it, but it is here.

  First, you mentioned that you have a medical degree, but did not know that there are specialized tests to determine a person's blood type. I am curious what type of degree you have. I am a nurse, so I was jsut curious.

  At the end of your last post you said

  I am preparing myself to deal with whatever comes my way, and I will stand my ground and I have already told him that he HAS to back me up, because he brought ME into this.

  I beg to differ. YOU have allowed yourself to become involved with a man. Then YOU allowed yourself to think of marriage and children. Without knowing all there is to know about him and his lifestyle he is trying to uphold seperate from you. You admitted he does not disclose all there is to you, and I personally would not be thinking of marrying a guy who is not truthful with me.

  You came here to ask our opinions of the JW faith. Of any website/forum on the net, I know here you can ask any question you want without being censored. I just ask that you remember you came here to ask us, because we know more of his silence than you do. Please heed the advice you are given here, that is why you came right?
  We may not tell you what you want to hear, but we at least we are telling you, and talking about it.

  I could not find the other thread, so I don't know what advice you have already been given. So I will just give you a run down of how a JW thinks. Cass is correct, premarital sex is a HUGE no-no. And a person can become disfellowshipped for doing it. Even after you are married, you can be questioned if there was premarital sex, and still be punished for it. I know personally a couple who was disfellowshipped 2 months after they were married, because it was found out she was 5 months pregnant.

  When and if you do get married, you will live a seperate life. He will have his meetings and field service, and you will be home alone when he is out. Family holidays will not include him or his family if they are active JW's. And your daughter and yourself will be encouraged to become active Jw's as well.

  The road ahead of you will be full of various problems. And if your communication is not so hot now, imagine what it will be when he leaves the homes for hours at a time a few days a week. Again I stress please don't try to bring another kiddie into this now.

  I was a single mother, I know how hard it is to find a man who will be good and kind not only to myself but my child. I can empathize with what you are going through. But another child will not make him marry you faster, or make everything right.

  You mentioned you are thankful you did not marry your daughters father. But at the time, I am sure you didn't feel this way. Time has a way of changing our perspectives, and healing those wounds. It even helps the flames of love die down, and allows reality to set in. I just ask that you give this time, and force the guy to talk to you. If he can't or refuses to communicate I can only imagine what your life will be like.

  Good luck, and feel free to ask any questions you want.
  wendy

  Blind faith can justify anything.~Richard Dawkins
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  Christina77

  My previous post can be found if you open it up show all topics, instead of ones from the last week or so, or by clicking on the little thing next to my name that looks like it is a few pages stacked upon eachother. It is under Interfaith Relationship.

  I do know that there is specialized testing if you are looking for your blood type, and I have my blood tested all the time due to my job as a health care professional. Also for other health reasons, because of my degree my MD often lets me look at the results and it is right on top, what my Type is... I don't know if this is always done at every doctors office, but I see it often enough and I see it on my patients charts on a regular basis that I assumed that this is a normal occurance.

  I am here to get all the info that I can and I do take what I am given to better my knowlege... I am sorry if my writing doesn't sound that way, but I try to answer everything that is asked in the posts. And I really do want to hear what you have to say, it is very important to me.

  By the way that he acts, I can't see how he is an active JW... that is what doesn't make sense to me. He brakes all the rules and I don't think that is right. And especially since he brakes them, even more so that his parents should know about me, and he should drop this false image that he has created by being such a good JW when he is not.

  I have told him that I will not convert, and even moreso that I am raising my daughter Catholic. It would be too confusing to her, and would be horrible to deny her all that she has come to know as a normal life.

  I am not looking to bring in another kiddie right now, I am thinking earliest in another 4 years... I want to finish my education and there is no way I can do that if I get pregnant again. I just posed the question because it came up in our converstation about our future and I asked him what his blood type was and he didn't know, and he has no desire to find out. I just wanted to know if this is a common practice.

  With my daughters father, I got pregnant at the age of 17. Sex was pushed on me... he was 2 years older than I, had massive family problems, drank, cheated on me, was a pathological liar, couldn't hold a job, stole from me, etc. it was a very disturbing relationship. Unfortunately, I found out all of his problems after I got pregnant. I was very glad to get out of when I did...

  I am very glad to find such a wonderful man as I have found in my boyfriend. He is everything that I have every wanted, and has been a great support for me. I really don't know what I would do without him. I have no intention on leaving him, and we have a wonderful relationship otherwise. I know this will cause us some major problems in the future. I am willing to coexist, but who knows what will be pushed on him by others and that is what I am scared to find out. And that is his problem, he is very scared and doesn't know what is going to happen. I just hope that because of his love for me, that he will find in his heart what caused to drift away in the first place when we became involved. It would probably be better in the long run.

  Reality has set in for me, and that is why I am looking for help, and I do greatly respect all that has been given to me by all those that have posted replies.

  Thanks Again,
  Christina
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  Christina77

  And Wendy -

  Just so that you know, he did bring this upon me since he was not honest with me when we first met. I stated that in my other post but if you haven't found it... I found out in the beginning of August that he was a JW, when I pushed the issue that I haven't met his parents after being with him for a year and a half... That is why I say that he brought this on ME. He knew from our first conversation that I was Roman Catholic and I asked him what his denomination was, and at that time he was in his stage that he was thinking about leaving so he told me that he didn't follow anything... and I as fine with that, once he told me that he did have a belief system... and didn't tell me that is why he brought this on ME... and it really hurts, and I was extrememly upset that we would have to break up.

  ok, thanks again,
  Christina
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  Sirona

  Hi Christina

  I cant see the interfaith thread when I click on your name.

  Before I was married, I started seeing someone in the congregation (we were both JW) but we saw each other in secret because we knew that as soon as people found out we would be under pressure. We knew that we couldnt date and let people know because they would push us to get married after a short time. Sure enough, when we did finally tell them, (months down the line) they all started with "so when is the wedding?".

  I have never told anyone this outside my immediate family and JW elders... when we were seeing each other we had sex ...sort of. We didnt have full intercourse but anything else! Anyway, as soon as we revealed we were seeing each other we were asked about these things, and we were given lectures by people in which we felt pressured to confess anything that we had done of a sexual nature. So we confessed. It was the worst thing we could have done because we had judicial committees and were both reproved and our priveledges removed. We planned to get married in the Kingdom Hall, and even once our priveledges were back they still threatened that we couldnt use the hall to be married!!! It was so stressful and embarrassing. We had to tell them in grafic detail all the things we had done with each other, how many times, where, etc. and the most important question "would you do it again outside of marriage?" if we'd have answered "yes" then we would have been disfellowshipped.
  Anyway, we were married in the KH eventually.

  The reason I have told you this is 1. consider that he doesnt want to tell people yet not because they will say he shouldnt see you, but because he knows they will pressure him to marry you. A girl in my hall dated outside the "truth" and she had to marry him in a registry office, she wasnt DF'd but she was looked down upon and shunned. Will he marry you in a catholic church? if he does he will be disfellowshipped. You cant marry him in the Kingdom Hall because you are not JW. 2. As soon as they know he is seeing you, he will be asked if he is having sex with you...and then it all depends whether he will confess under the pressure.

  Then as mommy says at a later date he may feel the need to confess out of guilt.

  I hope things can be worked out.

  Sirona
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  mommy

  Christina,
  I just spent the last half an hour reading that post. I must say, I wish you luck. There is nothing I can add that hasn't been said already.
  . http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=12749&site=3#180649
  wendy

  Blind faith can justify anything.~Richard Dawkins
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  Christina77

  Thank you
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  ashitaka

  Mine is {Sexybitchposititve}. The rest of you can have your old 'O' or AB-......
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  Christina77

  Hey ashitaka -

  I think that comes from another allele... but good thinking.

  
  Christina
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  Joyzabel

  To answer your original question, yes it is normal for the average jw to not know their blood type (I would say 99%). Its just not important to them. j2bf