What Advice Would You Give To One Who Wants To Leave "The Truth"?

minimus

How should one go about it?

Should they just up and leave family and friends?

Should they take their time and make a plan to slowly fade???

R.Crusoe

What does someone want for Christmas?

Personal journeys essentially require a vital and continual element of positive and productive communication!

Samuel Thorsen

Fade, fade, fade!!! DA'ing is following their rules.

Be a polite, nice and loving person.

journey-on

Get out of her, my people!........LOL

But, seriously...Leave and don't look back. (Remember what happened to Lot's wife?...)

The method for leaving is individual. What works for one may not work for another. Lots of things to factor in.

GoddessRachel

Great question, Minimus! You should get an award for all the thought-provoking questions you invent.

The most important thing I would tell someone is to build a solid network of people outside the JW's. I believe people need people, and if all your people are wrapped up within the JW's you are going to crash hard once you isolate yourself by walking out without first making friends outside the JW's.

Yes, that means living a so-called double life for a while. Do it. It's for your own well being. A small struggle now for a long-term benefit.

Secondly I would say try to fade. Like was already brought out, DA'ing is their rules. Don't acknowledge them as your authority. Make your own rules; it's your life. PLUS another benefit to fading is if you are leaving behind a lot of JW family you might not want to outright cut yourself off from them (by their viewpoint that's what a person who DA's is doing).

Peace,

Rachel

Twitch

Don't think about it; just do it!

Best thing I ever did.

looloo

fade but make sure you do nothing that warrants being disflelowshippd for around 9 months, because my mate was dissfellowshipped even though she had not been to a meeting for 7 months and someone saw her smoking( or dont get found out )dont worry you will meet genuine friends now and will feel so set free, the truth about the truth set me free xx

parakeet

The sooner, the better.

mentalclearness

i think it would depend on the circumstances. But definitely I would say get a social network because that´s going to be necesarry when you think you´re going crazy....I would say maybe get a class or job that ineterferes with meetings and then you can miss and just not go back..Or move away and never go back..Don´t get your publisher cards..Don´t tell anyone you´re leaving...

momzcrazy

Build up relationships and activies away from JWland, especially if you have kids, prior to leaving. Be prepared, as much as you can, for negative reactions from family. Even if you are prepared it hurts more than you expect.

momz

What Advice Would You Give To One Who Wants To Leave "The Truth"?

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