A turning point for me

by dinah 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • dinah
    dinah

    All the newbies are making me go back and re-visit this ton of bricks that fell on my head. Thank you for that! It's alway good to go back and visit where you've been to help you know where you are going.

    Let me tell you about something I can still remember as though is was yesterday.

    It was my 34rd birthday. I had a few drinks and had to use the "facilities". Our bathroom has mirrors all over the place. I caught sight of myself in the mirror as I was walking out. I paused and took a long look. I looked and looked and didn't even recognize myself. I aksed that crazy woman in the mirror--"Who are you??, I dont even know you anymore!!" Had a long talk with myself. Yeah, I know you can get locked away for that. Anyway, I made an agreement with that woman in the mirror that we would fight and beat this and get better. I told her it wasn't her fault for being born into that mess. I told her she can leave it behind if she so chooses.

    It was the beginning of me leaving it all behind. Of course, there was alot of prayer that went on that year. They were answered for the most part.

    Years later, the anger still pops up from time to time. But making it go away is getting much easier.

    I'm trying to get myself into a position to help others the way I was helped. (There were some awfully great people over on Paradise Cafe--they saved my life in all probability).

    So if anyone ever needs to talk, you can pm me. I have all the time in the world since I have a bad back and can't work. (Which really sucks, btw). I have open ears and an open mind.

    I just feel like I should "pay it forward" for all the help I received.

  • looloo
    looloo

    cheers dinah will bear that in mind xxxxx

  • momzcrazy
    momzcrazy

    ((((Dinah))))

  • llbh
    llbh

    My turning point was when having visited hopital's about 1000 times over 15 months ( went every morning evening and whenever i had to) watching my parents demise - sadly they died within 10months of each other. I was visited by two elders to discuss my daughter who was 4 and smelling a bit at the group.

    Thought - you can imagine. this set me to thinking. Funny how happiness can come from sadness

    David

  • dinah
    dinah

    Maybe you have to have some sadness to appreciate happiness when it comes along?

  • llbh
    llbh

    I think so

    Maybe you have to have some sadness to appreciate happiness when it comes along?

    It was hard . My only regret is my mum and dad who were not JW do not know how i feel now and that i would love to spend Christmas and birthdays with them. Not a big regret though

    David

  • dinah
    dinah

    David,

    That is a tough one. I'm sorry you lost both of them so quickly. They must have been really close. I've seen that happen alot, when a spouse dies the other goes right behind them.

    You have to move on about the birthdays and holidays. Yes, it would've been nice to have been there, but you can't change what happened. Learn from it.

    After my Grandpa died I was crushed because I had been out just living my life but didn't visit him as often as I should. Now, I keep in almost constant contact with my Dad. Also, I can see my Dad and Grandpa in my son. They are cut from the same cloth and that suits me fine.

  • llbh
    llbh

    Hey Dinah i have moved on a lot an awful lot.

    I give my children big hugs they look at me and appreciate but have little idea/ We can only love when alive and i do!!

    Mum and dad never ever got over losing my bro 5 years before they did.

    i enjoy my life as much as possible

    David

  • llbh
    llbh

    Hey Dinah i have moved on a lot an awful lot.

    I give my children big hugs they look at me and appreciate but have little idea/ We can only love when alive and i do!!

    Mum and dad never ever got over losing my bro 5 years before they did.

    i enjoy my life as much as possible

    David

  • dinah
    dinah

    Forward progress, David.

    Kids help alot. It gives you somewhere to put all that love that comes from nowhere when they are born.

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