QUANDRY- It is definitely true what you say. Unless someone has walked in our shoes as witnesses at one time - they really can't understand the isolation and loneliness at times. Good post
Newbies - Tell Us Your Stories Getting out of the Witnesses
by flipper 27 Replies latest jw friends
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flipper
Just wanted to bump this up to give any newbies a chance to post their personal stories ! So bring your stories on ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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looloo
flipper , sorry i did not make my post clear , i was not sexually abused by the elder as i was a grown woman in her 20s at the time , it was an ex min servant that sexually abused my child , i actually felt sorry for the elder that told me how he felt about me as i think he felt really guilty , and he never touched me . and the newbie whos husband thinks she should get over it , my husband is the same about me coming on this site and he was brought up in the truffff so if he dosnt understand who would ???
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cognac
wow, ok... (this is long, just started writing cause i guess things lead up to this point from a young age, sorry)
Father was a PO. He was also abusive. my mom did nothing about it. It seems like his dad may have been worse, so I guess he just didn't know any better. But it still hurt. it was because of him I wanted to really leave to begin with... because of that scripture that states, "by this all you will know you are my disciples, if you have love among yourselves." I was told that meant the society as a whole. which made sense to me, so I didn't leave. I used to dream that jehovah was just holding me. That's all that i wanted...
As a teenager, I was severely depressed. I just wanted to feel loved. I was always a cute, outgoing person. Not a lot of people would ever think this about me. My family new. They did nothing. my mother thought if I were to see a physichitrist, it would do more harm then good. I pushed those close to me away. I didn't want them near me. i didn't trust them. I Iooked at them like they wern't trying to help me. My mom would leave me alone cause she thought that was what i wanted. she tried to do right by me, she know something was wrong, she just didn't know what to do and I didn't make it easy.
My dad, I think always thought I wasn't to smart. Had something wired wrong about the way in which I process information. the doctors didn't say I was dumb, i could have been very bright, I just processed information differently. My dad never know how to deal with me or figure me out. I always wanted to be accepted by him, so I was always very driven workwise. I do well in business. I have a passion for it. In some ways, I'm a lot like my father. We get along just fine now. I smile everytime he calls me asking questions.
Married twice. first marriage was very abusive. he wasn't baptised. i was told it was partly my fault because the holy spirit wasn't with us. Another elder cried. got a scriptual divorce, restraining order, federal case against him. Even though he had a case against him, he moved to another hall and they let him get baptised. I tried to warn them, had tons of meetings with elders from multiple halls telling in detail what he did. I begged and pleaded that they wouldn't do this. I don't know why they let him get baptised as he had this case still against him pending. One elder was so mad that he said that they would have to answer to Jehovah for what they did.
Anyways, it was never that I started to question. I always did, certain things didn't make sense to me since I was young. but, there were only so many things that I questioned because I simply did not know all the things that I have come to know. also, other things did make sense, so I defended it.
I started to pioneer so I could get my questions answered. I didn't have anything necessarily against the society, just things I didn't understand and was waiting to be worked out. I researched the "questions from readers". That was probably my biggest stumbling block. I really started reading the bible and comparing things to there original language. Questions piled over one on top of the other.
then i read 2 Pe. 2:1 where it talks about false teachers... that kind of did it in for me. I could no longer excuse everything away. Before, people would say the society was false prophets, but i thought they just misinterpreted scriptures. whenever I read this scripture and realized that they were also warning about false teachers, everything in an instant came crashing down cause I already knew so much but just always justified it stating that they "misinterpreted" scriptures by accident...
Then I was just plain pissed. i went through hell defending the org, not going to authorities earlier because i didn't want to "put a bad light on Jehovah's organization", etc, etc.
Everyone was kind of shocked at how enthusiastic I was on this board. I wasn't. I was mad as hell...
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flipper
LOOLOO- Oh ! I'm sorry I misunderstood your post about the abuse you described . I thought you said you went through it. But I'm so sorry to hear your child was molested by an ex-ministerial servant ! Disgusting ! I hope you turned him into the authorities and he got his jail time for the abuse ! Hope you have assisted your child with counseling as well.
COGNAC- I agree with you Cognac. I too was mad as hell at the Watchtower society when first exiting 4 years ago. Now it's just a " slow burn ". I now put all that energy into positive things - like trying to get some I know out of the witness cult , including my daughter. So , your dad was a P.O. ? My dad was too, for years . I'm sorry he was abusive to you . Your mom was being the good " witness wife " by ignoring it , I suppose.
I think you are very smart Cognac , and have a kind, good heart. It sounds like you were frustrated by the inconsistent rulings of the elders . That is what frustrated me as well and caused me to really question and doubt that Jehovah's spirit really appointed these weirdos. I learned the truth about the alledged " truth ". We are glad you are here sis ! Keep on postin' you have great thoughts , look forward to your future posts -
flipper
Hello folks. Just wanted to bump this thread up for the newbies to reply to. So have at it - we'd all love to hear your stories . It might help more people to have the courage to post their stories. Look forward to hearing them
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POLICE 911
OK WELL I WAS 1 OF JEHOVAHS WITNESS AND I QUIT BECAUSE I DID NOT LIKE IT! THEY YELL AT ME ALL OF THE TIME BECUASE I WOULD DRESSE UP HOW EVER I WANTED. AND BECUASE IM GOING TO BE A POLICE OFFICER! WELL EMAIL ME BACK BYE
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flipper
POLICE 911 - Very interesting - I might say. Welcome to the board ! You say they got mad at you for dressing up any way you wanted ? Their dress code sure is strict, isn't it ? You say you want to be a police officer - did you try dressing up as one of those ? If you tell them your goals of reaching out to be a police officer , perhaps they would understand. But you are welcome here with open arms , look forwardto further posts by you , for sure
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flipper
Just wanted to bump this thread up for newbies who want to tell any of their experiences of exiting the witnesses. So post away , we would like to hear any of your stories
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The Oracle
NYer Girl,
I read your account, and I too feel deeply for you.
What a horrible religion. I am so sorry you have had to suffer so much. I think you are well on your way to recovery. Sounds like you have started a nice new life, but it will probably never take away the pain you have experienced because of your involvement with this cult.
May you have peace and happiness in the years ahead!
The Oracle