by lavendar 17 Replies latest jw friends
When I was a kid in the 50's they would announce why the person was df'd. And for those of us that were too young to understand Adultery, our folks would just say that they were BAD. So, forever after that you always looked at that person as being a BAD person. Terrible.
in the 70's, they would usually have local needs talk a week later, and the subject matter usually worked in around the errant person's sin.
NMG
Rachel,
Here it was alway the first "Local Needs" talk on the Service Meeting, that night or later in the month.
JK
Rachel,
Here it was alway the first "Local Needs" talk on the Service Meeting, that night or later in the month.
JK
Oh yes, I think that makes more sense and I bet it's the same thing when I was goinng. I bet it's just that the local needs talk fell on the night of my announcement, and it was so embarrassing. But I bet they didn't trade schedules just so they could do a local needs part that night. I bet it was the subject matter the very next local needs part, and sometimes the two items, local needs and disfellowshiping announcement, coincided.
I don't know if this is the "norm"; but around here they would always have the regular annoucements and then say "There is another announcement that Brother ____ has to make" and then a elder would walk up with a piece of paper (you always knew what was coming with this happened) and look at it and read off "so and so has been df'd from the congregation of JW"....like they needed the paper to read off of! From what I understand they know say, "so and so is no longer a JW". I was announced as df'd in '01.
Then it seemed like later in the month they would have a special needs talk and if you didn't already know from the rumor mill, you could figure it out from this talk why the person was df'd.
whan I was disfellowshipped, it was multiple offenses....they'd have to do a three part series to cover all the stuff I did.....LOL!
I don't know if this is the "norm"; but around here they would always have the regular annoucements and then say "There is another announcement that Brother ____ has to make" and then a elder would walk up with a piece of paper (you always knew what was coming with this happened) and look at it and read off "so and so has been df'd from the congregation of JW"....like they needed the paper to read off of! From what I understand they know say, "so and so is no longer a JW". I was announced as df'd in '01.
Then it seemed like later in the month they would have a special needs talk and if you didn't already know from the rumor mill, you could figure it out from this talk why the person was df'd.
YES, Babygirl, EXACTLY! It always annoyed me that they had to read it off a piece of paper too. When I was reproved they read what my restrictions were, and it was so embarrassing. Anyone else have this experience?
I don't know if this is the "norm"; but around here they would always have the regular annoucements and then say "There is another announcement that Brother ____ has to make" and then a elder would walk up with a piece of paper (you always knew what was coming with this happened) and look at it and read off "so and so has been df'd from the congregation of JW"....like they needed the paper to read off of!
The person doing the regular announcements most of the time wasn't on the disfellowshipping committee. They had to have one of the elders on the committee (maybe the chairman?) make the announcement.
When I was reproved they read what my restrictions were, and it was so embarrassing. Anyone else have this experience?
I didn't think they would do that. Maybe they did many years ago. Usually people can figure out that you're not answering, or not being invited to come up and give the prayer (if you're a man), etc.
When I was reproved they read what my restrictions were, and it was so embarrassing. Anyone else have this experience?I didn't think they would do that. Maybe they did many years ago. Usually people can figure out that you're not answering, or not being invited to come up and give the prayer (if you're a man), etc.
For some reason I think it was this particular congregation that it happened in, not on a widespread level. It was less than 10 years ago. The thing that was the most embarrassing to me was that I got in trouble for messing around with my JW boyfriend who was in the same congregation and he was reproved that same night also. He didn't even show up to the meeting but I wanted to face my shame. What a fool I was. My boyfriend had a different elder make his reproving announcement and he didn't mention anything about his restrictions! I asked my JC chairperson about it later and he said that was up to his JC. It was so humiliating at the time, like one announcement immediately after the other, followed by a local needs part the same night about fornication, so EVERYONE knew what we were reproved for (if they hadn't already figured it out) PLUS they announced my restrictions and not his so it appeared (to me) that I was MORE TO BLAME. As he was born and raised in that congregation many people treated me like I WAS more at fault, or at least that's the impression I got. People would make comments about how their sweet boy would never have gotten into trouble before I moved in. Which is a crock of poo, because he had gambling and drinking problems before I ever got involved with him. I still remember that feeling, sitting through that local needs part, everyone staring at me, my face felt so hot and I just wanted to crawl under my chair and never come out. Rachel
