Freedom, I am in exactly the same boat. My wife and I were both raised in the "truth" and we have been married 17 years. I served as an elder for several years until resigning 2 years ago due to the hypocrisy and other crap that I observed on the "inside" and what was coming out of Brooklyn. Suddenly having all this time on my hands that I never had before, something told me to start investigating. Needless to say, it didn't take long for my suspicions to be confirmed that the organization was nothing more than a diabolical cult.
I have tried several approaches with the wife, both subtle and not so subtle to get her to see things as they really are, but nothing really has worked so far. She refuses to read anything other than the WT publications, or to view anything about the org. on the internet for fear she might stumble on something apostate. I have tried to reason with her using just the bible and she just wont accept it. After all, she says, how can I know more than the faithful slave about the scriptures.
The only scripture that she will admit to agreeing to is Luke 21:8 where Jesus issued a warning about any person or group claiming to represent him that is proclaiming "... the end is near...", He said "...do not go after them." Although she is unable to refute the fact that of all religions on earth today this scripture most fully applies to Jehovah's Witnesses, it still is not enough for her and she plans to "wait on Jehovah" for better understanding. To make matters worse for us lately, my wifes mother a life-long witness of 70+ years, recently passed. Her father is a long time elder and her sister is regular pioneer married to an elder. They have two children - also pioneers. Now more than ever the family is determined to stay in the "truth" and remain faithful until death like the mother, or until the new system. I love this family, and we all get along great, but they are on to the fact that I no longer hold the organization up like in the past, so I'm sort of the rogue.
Interestingly, I have shared some of what I have learned about the org. to my fleshly brother and several active "brothers" and while I tell it is hard for them to accept certain things, they don't refuse to believe it. It's a different story with my mother and sister, both lifelong witnesses and other active "sisters" that I have spoken to who refuse to believe that anything is amiss with the org. I just get the "get behind me Satan" look.
Part of the problem I think (and this may sound sexist I know) is that in general, women are more gullable than men and they tend to view things on a less logical level when it comes to the "truth". The apostle Paul confirmed this when he wrote to Timothy "... Adam was not deceived, but the woman was thoroughly deceived and came to be in transgression." (1 Tim 2:14) This no doubt explains why women greatly outnumber men in this organization. That being said, I know there are lots of women out here who have broken free from the "cult" and I would say they are as vocal or even more so than the men and I appreciate their viewpoints.
Anyway, I plan to keep working on my wife, trying different appoaches, pointing out the blatant lies and misconceptions in the mags and publications as they come out all while subtly showing her that this org. is not the "be all" "end all" that she thinks. There is another way of life. Hopefully, something will register and we can get on with our lives free from this mess.
