Dear BabaYaga:
I just read your post. I also wanted to thank you for your kindness. I wanted people to know some of the details so that if anything similar happened to them, or they knew someone who had suffered, they might be able to help them. I mean no offense to those who believe in God, but I could never believe in the WT's Jehovah. If there is a God, he in not the way the JW's explain him. I gag just reading the Old Testament. My recovery was aided by friends (the few left to me), my fleshly family who never believed the JW's, research, and self-applied therapy. I needed it sooner than I thought.
After they separated from me, I lost my job a week later. Shortly after that, my mother died. Then my 101-year-old grandmother died. Then 8 more uncles, cousins, etc. My daughter and my mother were very close and her death made my daughter spiral down. Hundreds of thousands of dollars in medical care. We paid. My wife and daughter went to a different hall. I'm glad they are happy if that's their choice, but I cannot do it. My strength was finally developed from within, not from the WT.
I also wanted to clear up one point. When I listed my accomplishments and abilities, it was not to brag. I was adding to the point in the thread about how many people gave up very good careers, either financially or those that would have made them happy. I realize now that we could have had a paid off home, a few kids, and my wife staying home with them. I'm sure the molestation would not have occurred if she had been home with 3 or 4 kids to watch. I don't look down on people's jobs. If a person would have been a manager at McDonald's and could support his family, but instead worked the register and went broke, then I think he should become a manager. People have the right to support themselves. And as many have noted, most Bethel "retirees" have problems finding work in the world.
My sympathy goes out to ALL who have suffered because of the WT's lunacy. I hope everyone can heal and find a measure of peace in their lives. I strongly suggest that if anyone is in a bad way, they contact a professional who can assist them. There have been suicides by victims and/or parents because the child blames himself for the abuse and the parents blame themselves for not seeing it. I know of one teenage boy in England who reported to the elders that a MS molested him. The MS denied it and the boy was DF'd for gossip and a "homosexual act". CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT??????.
He went to the police and the congregation trashed his name and his life. But the police weren't fooled. The molester in now in jail. I just wanted to show at least one incident of the type of behavior exhibited by the WT, yet defended by the ones still going to meetings willingly or those who post sick and twisted comments concerning this issue and the WT's conduct. Again, Silent Lambs helps many to heal. I posted regularly for years.
I'm now shunned and haven't seen my daughter in three years nor heard her voice. She graduated high school (I was told if I showed up, they'd leave) and she got her driver's license and started college. I missed all this and cannot get it back. This is the price we all pay for following our hearts and the Bible instead of a cult that is run like the Marines who first consult with the Pharisees. I bet Russell is turning over in his grave. (No, JW's, he is NOT in Heaven being crowned as a special guy.)
Again, I hope anyone in pain will find solace and peace someday.