Reunions.....the aftermath

by RAYZORBLADE 15 Replies latest jw experiences

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  RAYZORBLADE

  Thanks to those who responded. Honestly, I didn't think I'd hear nor read a 'peep'.

  My post was one of those affirmations. Looking back at some old posts in my posting history, I saw that I had longed for contacts with a particular few.

  Now...that I have I got what I wished for, it's definitely very sobering.

  Nice to see that there are a few here who've done similarly; Crumpet having had a positive experience .

  The latter part of my post, indicates two other people whom I've been re-acquainted with.

  Those two are fine; we're all taking our time and have placed no expectations on one another.

  The nice part is, we all communicate frequently. If not via the internet, at least via the telephone. It's been good so far.

  Ironically, these 2 folks found me; rather than myself seeking them.

  Hmm...

  Overall, I no longer feel a need to seek out former JWs.

  Sometimes it's good to follow that old saying: 'let sleeping dogs lay'.

  Finally-Free. Yes, it's much more advantageous to give the birdies more attention. Never any rejections or disappointments there, ever!

  Thanks to everyone who followed-up.
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  Junction-Guy

  I no longer have the desire to meet any former JW's that I went to the hall with. The only exception is if I can find some that are activists like myself. I never fit in as a JW to begin with, I never loved that cult, I always wanted it to be false. I despised my whole time growing up as a JW.
  
  I have made friends since leaving the Kingdom Hall, but sadly, due to moving, I lost contact with many of them. I would love to find some of my former classmates and fill them in with some unanswered questions about myself and my JW upbringing.
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  jgnat

  Well, Rayzor, I'm the better for have known you. I still treasure the Christmas card I got from you one year. I think you are a natural connector. One of those people who yearns to bring people together because, you know, we are all so cool in our own way.
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  JK666

  Thank you for sharing your story.

  I have reached out to a few disfellowshipped people that I have heard about, but haven't had a response. I have met one old friend here, and play golf a few times a year with him.

  It may happen for you someday . . .

  JK
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  Layla33

  I am kind of like Junctionguy in the fact that I really don't have much desire to know the JW friends that I grew up with and that's because for the most part I still know relatively what and how they are doing through family members. Once and a while I will have a moment where I will remember or think about "whatever happened to so-so" but it doesn't last for too long. As I am still getting used to the site, I tossed over going to the reunions and such, but again, I am not so sure about it.

  It's been 18 years for me. I still talk with a good portion of my family, but I really don't think in terms of the JW ideology, it's interesting to discuss it on here, but in my life and thought processes it rarely comes up, if at all. I remember the painful/hard process of leaving and I am glad I got it out of the way at 18 and I am very happy with the adult I have turned out to be. However, just because someone is an ex-JW doesn't mean we would have much in common, as I do think that the leaving the JW religion can be a training ground for dysfunction and sometimes people get really spun out of control within themselves afterwards and don't truly ever find their footing.

  I think there is some truth to the phrase "you can never go back home again". And that's not to say, there aren't good reunions, because I am sure there are, but just come into it clearly and not with rose-colored glasses.
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  mouthy

  Good thought my dear dear Razor........HUGS !!!!