Here is another thought, and I'd like to state it rather bluntly:
Borgians adhere to the practice of shunning because they want to save their own precious butts and "spiritual standing" and opportunities to rise up the corporate leadership ladder.
There seems to be, at least what I've experienced in the perhaps ten congregations I've attended in the past, various interpretations of just how much spin to apply the "admonitions" as they are provided in the magazines. I'm afraid I don't have much insight into books that are available only to elders, CO's, etc, but imagine that there is a certain amount of "man-made" dictates (dependent upon the predilections/ temperament of the current "leadership" ensconced in their individual fiefdoms) that are used to define just how, and when, and why, and under what circumstances, with whatever exceptions, the very broad principles that actually appear in bible scripture.
Anyone who has had a fool or an idiot for an employer knows how capricious their judgments and whims can be. Isn't it usually a requirement to suck up to that in order to achieve promotions and other perks?
Some borgians will do anything to preserve a perfectly "untainted" status so they can be used in assembly parts, give special talks, scrub toilets in sports arenas, etc.
So, Joelbear, while entirely agreeing with you and everyone else's take on this abusive policy, I am a cynic and really think much of the motive is self-preservation. I'm with you on your saying A friend is a friend forever (well, unless they try to, like, kill you or something). And I'll make my OWN decisions about maintaining ties with someone, especially when judgment is rendered behind closed doors. I want to know from my friend's own mouth what their situation is, and the "rule" of never speaking to them again is insane, and requires one to completely believe that whatever "sentance" that the lard-butt group of uneducated power freaks has handed down is legitimate.
I'll talk to anyone, with as much respect as possible, whenever I damn well feel like it.
Oooh, that felt good to write, and thanks for the good thread topic.
lauralisa, who is pretty fired up these days
ps: I had to look up the word "ensconce" in the dictionary. My eyes fell right on the word "enough".....
It's only water from a stranger's tear (Peter Gabriel)