I thought a DF'd person had "turned against Jehovah" and was "in Gehenna" according to JW doctrine, so would their sins really be forgiven at death? I thought it was up in the air and nobody could know for sure, but that one would lean towards thinking the person had died a final death because they committed the ultimate sin of "knowing Jehovah" and turning against him. of course, I never did pay as good attention as I should- but I know it was explained to me that way when I was counseled for association with DF'd people.
I actually think the only part that went over the top was having the secretary say that to them... everything else I thought was fair game. And I hope it does make them think.
I agree it is a mind control cult, but honestly it isn't something I will ever get. I don't care what anyone told me, I wouldn't abandon my kids. Perhaps because I was abandoned as a kid (age 4/5) by my mother and didn't know her again until my adult life. There is no excuse for cutting off your kid in my perspective.