ttw-- you sound like a very kind person. Thanks for posting here! I enjoyed reading your statements and feelings. I guess, if many of us had it to do over again, we would ask one question of them, and it's a simple one:
'If I became a JW, does the WTS teach that I should limit the time that I spend with my own sister, my brother, grandparents, cousins, old and dear friends and neighbors and even my parents?'
and then I'd ask, 'If I became a JW then some time later decided to leave it, would I be viewed differently by the JWs, even shunned, avoided by people who had become my friends. . .would I be considered a bad association?'
the answers to these are YES. But they hide this until you're fully indoctrinated.
(others have asked similar questions like: Can I do research on the history of JWs and that of their beliefs? [they will then hand you their own books for this] Then ask 'why not go to the library or the internet too'. . .researching JWs in sources other than their own is forbidden.) This is an eyeopener for many people.