lesterid: how can i forgive him? i'm asking for what you mean by that, i dont want it to sound like i'm criticizing. how can you forgive someone who never even awknowledges what they've done wrong? LET ALONE actually ask for forgiveness? What's there to forgive? He fu*ked up? Big woop. i screw up all the time, but I'm man enough to say, "yeah, i screwed up. I'm sorry." There's a difference, in my mind, between understanding a lapse in judgement, and making a conscious decision to hurt a child who should be the epitimomy of a loved one. If he showed any remorse, well than this would be a different conversation.
I hope he is miserable. He should be. I hope he is haunted every night he tries to sleep in his bed, just like me. I think that's only just. There are those who would say he deserves to die. Part of me agrees. But really...death is too easy. I saw what my mom went thru when she tried to kill herself, several times. It's not worth it. period. I only wish there was an actual hell...So I would know that at SOME point, he'd get what he deserves. Destroying a family, destroying lives, literally robbing all of his family from their childhood...there is no forgiveness for that.
I'm sure he's a victim himself. But that doesnt' justify anything. Just like if I did the same thing, I wouldn't be asking for any forgiveness. And if I did...well then F*CK. I'd STILL be a better man, because at least I'd be making an effort, admitting what I did. Denial is the definition of a slippery slope.
I can't wait until he finally falls.