by Pistoff 19 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
Here is the kicker: the wedding is set to be at our home in the country
What a lovely tribute to you as a parent-that your child wants to be married in the family home!!!!!
Why, oh, why do they have to take this occasion to make a stand?
These people are set on ruining what should be a special FAMILY day. When it suits them, they bend the rules, but can't be anything but rigid in this event.
I can only imagine how upsetting this is for all and I am so sorry to hear about it.
In my opinion, it just brings attention to them that they crave. It actually makes them happier ruining someone else's day than just going. Now that's low self esteem.
Just be happy - I know it's hard, but that's how you defeat these morons.
the wedding is set to be at our home in the country
I am also surprised that since you are not active the inlaws to be have not made an issue of this also.
Hope4Others
I do not envy your situation, PO. How terrible for you to be so torn. I can only say that this is a blessed union and that as HOST the options should be yours. This is at YOUR home afterall, and a Family affair. Tell everyone involved that you hope for everyones attendance and inclusion, and do not let your own child feel threatened or excluded in this very special occaision. Above all, protect your own.
I wish you all the best, and support you in this (what should never) be a difficult time.
I am not sure just because he is disfellowshipped they should not go..but this did happen to me with my two sisters and my brother - i was never invited to their weddings..and guess what..I am not disfellowshipped - i just left..
this is the same exact issue that basicly destroyed everything for me. i was a MS, and we decided to have a wedding outdoors and not in the KH. the WT's said it was a conscience decision. i asked an elder i was close to, and we ok'd everything. after stuff is paid for and arranged, 2 weeks later the PO doesnt like it, and to make a long story short i was told that i could have a DF family member at the wedding and reception if I had it at the KH. If I didnt have it at the KH then I would lose my position. We had at outdoors as planned. I was deleted and basicly lost everything. i dont regret it however. we since left that hall, and about 90% of my old life long friends do not talk to us. while its a hardcore lesson in life, its a valuable one. i dont ever want to have a situation in life where i feel i am sorounded by loving people who i view as family, when in reality i am in the matrix, and if i wake up and pull the tube out of my throat, they will all walk a way. would rather have a couple real friends then a bunch of fakes. so good luck to you, i hope this wedding doesnt ruin anyone's "life". i know several other people that have lost alot because they simply had a wedding. witnesses eat their young and become animals when its time to have a wedding.
I'm with Quandary on this one.... I've always told my JW family that people don't hate JWs becasue they have the truth, they hate them because they're assholes... This is a perfect example. And, just to be curious, does the person Df'ed continue to commit so called "gross sin"? If net, there's no reason for the shunning.
DAWG: No, the df'd son is a model citizen; clean from substances, quit smoking, married, child, college grad. Respected and liked; just not interested in going back to be reinstated because he will have to lie about what he believes.
It is interesting that someone else had the same experience; now I know that it is an unwritten RULE that DF'd can show up at the hall for a wedding but not anywhere else.
So it is NOT that they are df'd; my inlaws could choose to not see my son for the reason they are claiming no matter where the wedding is. But they get to weasel out of their convictions if it is in the KH.
Another BS workaround by the boys in NY.
And they claim to no be the modern Pharisees.
Right.
P
BTTT: anyone else have this experience?
The things the WTBTS thinks it has a right to intervene in takes away all your rights.
What does the constitution mean to the WTBTS apart from when it infringes upon their self appointed divine liberty?
