The word "homophobia" is so overused.
For the most part I believe in live and let live, If someone, especially a stranger chooses to live their life a certain way, I don't give a darn what they do, it doesn't affect me. On the same token I too deserve that same right.
If I'm considered to be "homophobic", then know this---I was much less homophobic before I ever accepted that I was SSA'd. My "homophobia" is more or less a reaction to my dealings with the homosexual people/culture.
As far as I know, I never once said anything negative about the homosexual lifestyle, no preaching, no judgementalism. It wasn't until the crappy way I was treated by the gays and the atheists, that a backlash ensued.
I have been insulted beyond belief on this board by several posters all because I don't buy into their political agenda.
I have a much more negative view of the gay community now than I ever did before. It would have been better off for me if I never tried to venture into the gay community to begin with. I might be a tad bit more tolerant today.