This Past Week Has Been Hell!

XJW4EVR

Last Friday morning, my wife was attacked while waiting to transfer between buses. Normally, she has the car, and I commute to school, however this day I had to take the car in for some repairs, and then commute to school. She fought off this guy for some time, and walked away with scratches, scrapes, and some bruises. However, the emotional and mental trauma has taken its toll. Not to mention the fact that I feel enormously guilty over what happened to her.

Tuesday we spent a good portion of the morning with the D.A. reviewing the case, and then went down to LAPD HQ in order to get new photos of the bruises that have come up since the attack. The attacker was caught, because her fighting him off tired him out so much that he laid down just before the LAPD arrived. According to the D.A. they are charging him with kidnapping and assault with intent to rape, and attempted rape. He is in jail on a $2 million dollar bail. She, and I will begin counseling over this within the next week or so.

I have missed the last week of school over this. It's as if I don't want to let her out of my sight. I am supposed to keep these sorts of things from happening to her. It happened because I wanted the car fixed so that we could have the car for the weekend. She got hurt, nearly raped, and could have been murdered so that our weekend would by more convenient.

I say all this as basis for asking those of you that are Christian to pray for us, and for those that are not to do whatever positive things you do for the sake of others in bad situations such as this. I will respond as I can. Thank you in advance for your kind words, and any advice you may have.

potentialJWconvertswife

X- Don't blame yourself, sweetie! This was NOT your fault, and it could have happened even if she'd been driving the car. Definitely do the counseling, asap. Thank God she was strong enough to fight him off, even to wear him down so much that he had to lie down...that is one strong lady! Remind her, and yourself of that, and the fact that the SOB is in jail now. PTL she wasn't raped. That is a huge bright spot. Praying for the two of you. -Potential

troubled mind

I am so sorry for what your wife and you have had to go through this past week .

The best Mom advice I can give to you is this : Love her, hug her and be so very glad you both have another day to share together . Leave it at that . Do not let the what if's or if only I had done this ....cloud the here and now . The ultimate truth in life is life is precious , fragile ,and very brief so enjoy every second you have and don't waste any of it on things you can not control . That is the scariest realization we all have to face ....we really don't control everything we experience in life .

I am so proud of your wife that she had the strength and ability to ward off her attacker . Good for you both on seeking therapy after this trauma .

mouthy

Oh how awful .So many sickies in the world. EH! But you should not feel guilty... You were thinking ahead to having the car for a good weekend. How is she doing today? Very scary for her. The Monster....Glad they caught him XX

Sirona

So sorry that this happened to your wife and you!

It is not your fault....everyone in the world needs car repairs at some time....and everyone at some time has to use public transport. It is the fault of the horrible attacker.

Hugs to you both and sending you both positivity.

Sirona

lawrence

You and your wife are in my prayers.

chickpea

omg, mate!! such a horrific experience indeed....

like was already said... be in the present moment.... dont dwell on what could have or should have.... it becomes wasted energy that serves better if directed toward healing the physical and psychological wounds

in my prayers and thoughts

c/p

ex-nj-jw

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You can't blame yourself for this. Just be there for you wife to help her through this! Take care of her and yourself.

nj

Casper

Wow, your poor wife... I am so sorry you both are having to deal with this. No, it's not your fault... things just happen.

Support each other and be grateful it didn't turn out any worse.

Sending good thoughts your way...

Cas

VoidEater

My sympathies a with you, XJW. Please, use the time to learn you are not to blame. The one to blame is in jail.

I am supposed to keep these sorts of things from happening to her.

It's a heroic thought born of the best of what it is to be human. But it isn't so. You simply, realistically, honestly, cannot stop these things and live on this Earth.

It happened because I wanted the car fixed so that we could have the car for the weekend.

It happened because of a sick individual who attacked her. Period. You cannot disengage from life and normal activities, from taking care of things that need attention, in order to hopefully avoid any misdeed of others. It's just not possible.

Had it been done differently, something even worse might have happened.

But the worst in this case seems to have been avoided. While supporting your wife in her healing process, don't forget to heal yourself, as well.

This Past Week Has Been Hell!

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