An interesting dilemna

mindfield

Aaaarrgh... I finally got the guts to tell my mom yesterday I wouldn't be attending any more meetings. Of course, I had my reasons all laid out (going to the meetings would be hypocrite of my part, etc.) but, surprisingly, she didn't ask for any reason. I think she knew it was coming...

So anyway, she wanted to make a deal. If I wasn't going to meetings any longer, then I wouldn't be going to ... "those" sites as well. Any site that would show a lack of respect of her. Since she's paying a part of the connection. Not all, but some. And the computer is in her home... which she's paying a bit for...

So my dilemna is as follows:
1. Should I decide to not go any longer on www.jehovahs-witness.com because it would show a lack of respect for my mom?
or
2. Should I continue going on www.jehovahs-witness.com because it has no insulting meaning to my mom which is paying for the connection, and since I'm completely addicted to this site, which would probably mean I'd come back anyway...

Well, that's a doodle...

Can't wait for all those JW "friends" to come over inquiring about why I'm not coming to meetings... yeah right! As if! lol.

Xena

Well I have no solution for you fed up...but I sure would miss you if you quit coming here!!!!!!!!!!

Even if your PM IS butt ugly

ChimpGirl

If you'll pardon the precocity of a newbie, I'd say do whatever's best for you. Don't let anyone lay a guilt trip on you. And this site doesn't strike me as disrespectful; it's honest, open and considerate. The JWs' master weapon is guilt, as I'm sure you know, but what matters most of all is your mental and emotional freedom. And given what most of us have been through, we need support from others with similar experiences. So keep on coming here! There! Dilemna resolved!

Skimmer

Hello mindfield:

I suggest that you respect your mother's wishes in this matter and no longer use her house, her computer, and her Internet connection to access any site that is in her disfavor.

What you should do is to somehow get your own place, computer, and connection to do your browsing. Most public libraries have Internet connections for use, and public Internet access can be found at various colleges and commercial establishments.

Simon

How come you get away without paying any rent?

My parents used to rip me off something rotten - I remember getting a raise once and was told I was to hand it all over to them or else not bother coming home.

mindfield

Well, I work for my dad at a pretty low fee...I help him do some janitor work (don't laugh... it's pretty common in our cong.).

Darn....... I thought about it, and I can't see how this is a lack of respect. I mean, I still love my mom, as much as before, and I'm just trying to help myself, not put her down. Of course, this site is nevertheless the living proof that her years of pioneering were, well, not entirely worthy of her time. So I guess that could be an insult...

Mindchild

Hi Mindfield,

The old saying is that when you live in a glass house you don't throw many stones. Even though your mom is cramping your style it may be best advised to follow what Skimmer suggested unless you have absolutely no alternative, then you need to make a choice based on your own needs vs. the comfort zone of others. It usually is easier in the long run though to keep peaceful relation's with your family.

Besides the public libraries, there are Internet cafe's in many cities and if you have a Staples office supply store in your town, you can buy prepaid Internet service on a CD-ROM and use it on any computer that has a modem and CD-ROM to access the Internet.

Hey Chimpy! Good to see you here hun. Hope all is well with ya.

Skipper

All great deeds and all great thoughts have ridiculous beginnings--Albert Camus

battman

Sound like you are in a "minefield" hehe.

Seriously, I like the fact that you care for your
Mom and respect her feelings. Since you are
receiving "free rent" in exchange for "cheap labor"
you might consider that as a neogiating point.

Due to exchange of labor for room and board
you are not able to afford to pay all of the net
connection fee thereby negating her objection
to your freedom of viewing. How old are you?
How much is the net connection? Have you
thought about taking over control of your life?
What about further education? What about
a career or starting your own business. I know
of several friends in the cleaning profession who
have become very successful. Not just financially
but have control over their circumstance.

As another poster said " the problem is not lack
of money, it is lack of ideas!

Cheers and good luck,

battman

mindfield

Okay, thanks for your ideas!

Although it pains me to say it, I think you're right. No, not in that sense! i guess I could go to my college to go on this board... and other "questionable sites"... It'll take some getting used to, since I go on this board everytime I have a chance here! Oh well... Life goes on...

ISP

Hey Mindfield...tell her you are now a 'Truthseeker'....and as such the 'net is a tool to help in your search! Tell your Mom some of the truths about the WTS!

ISP

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