I am so very very sorry for your experiences, especially those while you were young. I feel for all of you with any current episodes you are experiencing or any past memories of such.
One of the things I know that demons pray upon is fear. Having fear, I have found, is most often caused by ones ignorance of the demons. Today people are just not taught about them as they should be.
Having fear of them shows one's lack of knowledge in their relationship with Christ. If Christ is in you and you are in Christ, and your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, and you are born again [saved], then these demons are all bluff.
If Christians realize that demons exist just as much as God does, they can begin to talk about them and learn about what is really going on. This is for the good of the Christian. We do not have to remain ignorant.
Consider that when the Bible says we have a [fight against against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places...] Ephesians 6.... this is talking about Satan's organization. This is why we told to put on the suit of armor. If your armor is in good shape you are ready for battle. So, one needs to know about their armor.
Now what is important to know is that we are the side of the battle that is already won for us by Jesus Christ. This means because of our relationship with Christ we have power over the demons. This, of course, is by the use of Christ's name and the enabling of the Holy Spirit.
Again, what is awful is that people are not taught about their position over the demons, having power over the demons. Please keep talking about them. The more you talk you learn. I feel there is much to deal with for people who have had your experiences.
Good for all of you for discussing them. They are no big deal when you get used to their wiles and machanations and are able to recognize them through people, experiences, and so forth.
As a Christian and believer in Jesus Christ, you are in a warfare, like it or not. If you have no reason to pay attention to them, that is good. However, it is important to recognize them.
In Chirst,
Thomas