dnt no wot 2 do, help! (page 2)

If you are only 16 years old things will be a bit more difficult for you -- you know you want to leave the JWs, but you don't yet have the resources to sustain yourself without help from your family. What to do?

First, you have to begin making some long-term plans. You need to get serious about getting an education so that you can provide for yourself. Probably you also need to learn how to keep your plans to yourself so that they do not get sabotaged.

Some people who don't have an academic inclination have found that seeking a career in the Armed Services is one way to gain some job skills, keep a tent over your head and learn to be an independent man. Yes, sometimes soldiers get killed, but sometimes people taking the train to work get blown up by terrorists, and they are no less dead than the soldiers. It is inescapable that any -ANY- path you take will have risks, including the ever-popular "time and unforeseen occurance." So don't let fear of death cause you to not consider a military career. If you like hardship, you can join the French Foreign Legion, but the more conventional Forces of your country have need for all kinds of talent at every level, and not all that talent gets sent to the front line.

The reason everyone keeps asking if you're baptized yet is because IF YOU ARE, you can be disfellowshipped, and that makes things harder for everyone.

Good luck. Let us know what you're thinking.

Gadget

If you are only 16 years old things will be a bit more difficult for you -- you know you want to leave the JWs, but you don't yet have the resources to sustain yourself without help from your family.

James will have some support from family, he's my younger brother so physical things like sustaining himself won't be a problem. Its more the emotional things like how to deal with how disappointed my JW parents will be. And he's not baptised, so that makes things a lot easier.

Paul

momzcrazy

Ok, thanks Paul.

Poor thing, there is really no way 'round the feeling of letting your parents down. My dad has passed, and my mom lives an hour away.I am not DA'd or DF'd, yet she chooses to shun me. I miss her alot. BUT I know I am doing the right thing for me and my kids. As a mom I have realized that my kids will let me down. They will make decisions that I won't like. They will make me cry. But I will always love them.

So, the best thing I can tell you to do is to talk to them. No, they won't like it. You may catch hell for your decision, actually, most likely will catch hell. If this is something you feel strongly about, just stand firm in your decision. Sounds like you have one great family member to support you.

Hang in there and good luck!

momz

Eliveleth

Dear James,

I will give you the same advice I would give my grandchildren if they were in the WT organization.

As Nathan said: Make plans. Keep them to yourself (Not tell anyone who will report you to the elders)

Make friends at school or in the neighborhood who are not JWs. Start thinking about what you want

to do with your life. A young girl who left the organization after we did and became part of our family

joined the marines. She got a disability discharge after 12 years and used her GI to go to college,

She is now working onbase and is going for her Master in Business Administration. I think the military

teaches you a lot in the way of self-discipline and self-esteem.

However you go, just know that you need education to make it in this world. Apply yourself in your

studies so that going to college will be easier.

Love and hugs,

Gramma Velta

Nathan Natas

Hi James,

One thing I neglected to mention is that there are many forms of 'education." Not everyone is meant to be a rocket scientist. There is nothing wrong with learning a trade and striving to be the best such tradesperson for miles around. Whatever work you do, take pride in it, and realize that your work is a mark you leave on the world to show that you were here. Sign your work with excellence.

One other thing is that here in the US, some states have laws that allow a legally underage minor to be declared a "liberated minor," who is then legally empowered to act on their own behalf - as in signing contracts (apartment leases, credit for major purchases, etc.). This is NOT an area that I have much familiarity with, and the laws where you live may be different. School counselors may be able to assist you in learning more about this if you wish.

snowbird

Hi James, and welcome!

This poster just said a mouthful and hasn't choked yet!

Hi James,
One thing I neglected to mention is that there are many forms of 'education." Not everyone is meant to be a rocket scientist. There is nothing wrong with learning a trade and striving to be the best such tradesperson for miles around. Whatever work you do, take pride in it, and realize that your work is a mark you leave on the world to show that you were here. Sign your work with excellence.

Amen and amen.

Sylvia

nelly136

i'd say same as some of the others,

build a social circle and make friends who dont go to the hall,

if you're too young to leave home...try and sit it out until you are old enough to be able to support yourself,

try and get as best education as you can in the meantime,

try and save up a bit of a rainy day fund.

if you're not baptised...don't get pressured into getting baptised.

you're lucky as you've got support of an older brother so at least if things go horribly wrong you won't be totally isolated from family as such.

ows dat den!

bite me

The poster that mentioned that your message may be over looked (i think it was ozzie) he is correct. I skipped over it myself, because the whole texting thing is over rated. I don't even do it in my personal texting day, and it is kind of annoying to sit and read in broken language. Anyway, welcome to the board. I'm sure, now that people see there are responses to this post, people will now read it to see what it is. That's how I decdided to open it.

I'm sorry I do not have an answer for you because I do not have experience with that issue. Best wishes.

dnt no wot 2 do, help!

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free2think

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Gadget

momzcrazy

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