What happens when a dub faces the truth...

by biblexaminer 19 Replies latest jw friends

  • biblexaminer
    biblexaminer

    I wanted to pass along this personal experience.

    The other day, my wife called me on the phone while I was at work. Keep in mind that she's unfortunately a blind JWfollowwhatevertheysay type. She was all worked up. She could hardly talk, and finally managed to get it out of her mouth, what was on her mind.

    Apparently, a fellow sister whom she hardly knows, called her on the phone and began this little presentation for selling some product. Rather unfortunately for my wife, she sounded kind of cold and disconnected. It was one of those form presentations where you just change the name etc.. "Hello MR/MRS [fill in the blank].. I am [fill in the blank], from.." You get the picture.

    In any case, as my wife tells me, she "thought this 'sister' was about to tell me some apostate news". My wife said her heart was pounding in her chest, she was gasping for air, and shaking like a leaf. She had to call me right away...

    Well, as it turns out, this 'sis' was selling tupperware or something, and my wife misread the conversation. The point is, look at what happened. What does it tell you about what it's like to be a dub, and be face to face with "it".

    And in this case, "it" wasn't even "it"... if you know what I mean. Just the prospect of facing some truth was incomprehensible for her. Her nerves were shot. Living the Watchtower way has put her on the pharmacy steps waiting for her next batch of mommy's little helpers.

    This taken into consideration, what is going to happen when one day, she and so many others have to face the music? They delude themselves, believeing that they all are just gonna slide on in to the "new world"... won't have to see any of that "ugly truth". Just as easy as pie.

    I remember when the first CCI mailer went out. It hit hard here and there was alot of tears. NO rebuttals concerning it's content. Just tears and wailing.

    It reminds me of the Pharasees. They could say nothing to refute the "truth" (real stuff) that out Lord brought upon them. All they could do is rip their clothes.

    I hope I can handle her when the shit hits the fan.

  • ashitaka
    ashitaka

    Mind control......truly disturbing, because I remember those same feelings...I feel like a real ass now.

    ashi

  • biblexaminer
    biblexaminer

    It's unfortunate. But here we are with it.

    Another thing,.. I managed to tell my wife a few things here and there. One day, she says to me "I don't want to wake up one day and find out that we were in a cult..." and went on to lament that she would not want to find out too late that her child could have had a birthday party.

    I thought the time was right, that her mind was beginning to open. I gave a little more info about a few things. But gently. Cause she can turn you know.

    But alas, the Watchtower mind control kicked in again. I think I have to get her in mid cycle. Seems the hormones help the process.

  • Frenchy
    Frenchy

    Biblex:
    Don't give up. Don't underestimate the seeds of doubt (flashes of truth, actually)that you have planted. This process frequently works in waves. The realization (or even strong suspicion) that something is amiss sends a person reeling back into the saftey of ignorance. But that person has had a flash of light regardless. After a few flashes the eyes begin to get accustomed to the light and eventually the green glasses come off and lo and behold, Emerald City is not really all green after all.

    -Seen it all, done it all, can't remember most of it-

  • biblexaminer
    biblexaminer

    That's about what I have come to believe. I have big hopes. But hey, we are all getting older. I'd like it to happen while I am still young.(young at heart anyway)

  • Simon
    Simon

    Hey, don't give up. My wife was just the same when I first started telling her things.

    Unfortunately, some never see the truth or recognise it and just grow older and sadder until they die. They must realise it wasn't the truth but the longer they leave things, the more difficult it is to leave and the less they have to loose.

  • biblexaminer
    biblexaminer

    It makes me think of a person who had bought some Nortel stock when it was about $80 CND. As it started to fall from $142/share, you tell them "Hey... look at the news... you had better sell!"

    But they break out in a cold sweat and quiver uncontrollably.

    You tell them, "Hey, sell... it $95/shr... get out while you can" and they practically go blind.

    You say, "LOOK, it's at $80... beak even and get out" but they rip their clothes and cover their eyes.... can't believe it.

    Then it's at $65 and you say "Take your loss and run" but they call you names.

    Then it hit's $8.00 p/shr and you say "what the hell's the matter with you?"

  • patio34
    patio34

    Hi Biblex,

    Good luck in your endeavors! I don't say anything to my sons for fear they'll withdraw from me and do the shunning thing!

    I remember always having a nagging fear that The One Thing would happen to destroy my faith (in the WTS!). I would have never searched it out, but it kept appearing in the news, books I read, etc. That is evolution, age of man, etc.

    Finally, one day I decided to examine the other side of those issues and read some books by evolutionists etc. The rest fell like the proverbial house of cards.

    I think that's what may scare a lot of dubs is that once a fatal flaw is found, they'll find out it can't stand. So, they (me too at one time) stay clearly away from anything suspicious.

    Thanks for the thoughts.

    Pat

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    Hi BE:
    I made the same mistake last night.
    I had disturbed her last week when talking about Guy Fawkes night, and she brought it up again about midnight, just as I was dozing off.
    So I slid in some other stuff, and ended up upsetting her.
    It's hard and it hurts to see someone you love acting so blind.
    The sad thing is that that was us a few months/years ago.
    I could weep!

  • Unclepenn1
    Unclepenn1

    Hey BibleX, I am sorry to hear that your wife has been duped for so long. It must be tough to handle, but I think letting the truth slip a little at a time might finally pay off someday.

    Patio34- What is it about evolution that is so convincing? Do you really think that we came from rocks? There is a Dr. offering 250,000 to anyone who can provide *any* proof that evolution has taken place. Good Luck!!

    Here is the link if you want to check it out.

    http://www.drdino.com/cse.asp?pg=articles&specific=1

    Penn

    Mohammed- 'My teachings lead to the attainment of truth'
    Buddha- 'The truth has been revealed to me'
    Jesus- 'I am the truth'

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