Howdy ho all you fine folks in JWD land! I thought you all might enjoy this little incident that occurred about six years ago when I was sixteen and newly baptized: It all happened one night after a Theocratic Misery School and disservice meeting, during which, I carried one of the microphones. Anyway, after the meeting, an elder approaches me and escorts me to the dreaded back room! I had literally NO idea what this was going to be about. (at this point in time, I was a fully fledged and thoroughly fooled follower of the fitful and frightening fools) In my mind, I had done nothing wrong, or at least deserving of THIS! Well, this elder (Let's call him Elder C) seemed at first to be having some difficulty describing to me what my "Problem" was, he said, (and I quote, for I can still recall everything quite vividly) "Do you know why you're back here?" (well golly gee, let me think... um... no) he continued, "Several people have brought it to my attention, and I have even noticed it myself, that sometimes... well... you act kind of... (and here is where he really had trouble saying the "word") well, kind of.. gay." "Gay?" I said, somewhat in shock. "Yes, in the way you walk, the way you carry the mic, and even in how you talk, among other things." By this point I was dumbfounded, I couldn't believe he was saying this to me, I also wondered who the "several people" were. (and wished right then that I could give them a fat-lip.) Nevertheless, I heard him out. What followed can only be described as farcical, to say the least; for he then proceeded to literally ACT OUT how a strait man would, and I kid you not, sit, walk, carry the mics, hand the mics to the "friends," even talk. ("you need to make your voice deeper.") He did everything but show me how a strait man would do the "deed." After this crash course in the school of the strait and narrow (minded) he even told me that I should work out and play sports. The very ironic thing about all of this is that, before this pep talk, I had been developing a vague awareness that I was somehow different, but when I walked out of the back room of doom, though, I realized that I was indeed gay. (sorry Brother C, waste of time) The evidence was there all along; (viz. playing with dolls as a child and dressing up in my mother's clothes, among other things...) however, it wasn't until he organized the pieces for me that I was really able to step back and see the picture the puzzle of my life was making, and so, in a way, I owe him a debt of gratitude... but only a little. Anyway, tell me what you think and whether anyone has had a similar experience. Cheers and have a fabulous day!
Hey everyone! Listen to this!
by Sebastian Melmoth 12 Replies latest jw friends
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Hope4Others
"Several people have brought it to my attention, and I have even noticed it myself, that sometimes... well... you act kind of... (and here is where he really had trouble saying the "word") well, kind of.. gay." "Gay?" I said, somewhat in shock. "Yes, in the way you walk, the way you carry the mic, and even in how you talk, among other things
Quite the nerve to say the least to assume gaydom, and haul you to the back, with no proof whether it be true or not, and only
based on hearsay speculation. Glad I'm away from that personal opinion B.S.
Cheers!
hope4others
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Junction-Guy
You should have told him you were going to join the football team and start dating girls. He probably would have told you nevermind and allow you on your merry way.
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tika
I find it odd that he would tell you to play sports and workout. My H was raised JW and he was not allowed to play sports, is it different from one cong. to another? I work out almost everyday at my local Y and my H's JW have showed their disdain for my hobby. Apparently they don't have any desire to take care of the bodies they have since the world is going to end soon, they should probably devour all of the HoHo's and twinkies before they become perfect humans, Haha. But I digress, I think the elder kind of liked what he saw SM, and maybe was disappointed you didn't encourage him!
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Junction-Guy
bingo
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lisavegas420
So he thought if you walked different and talked different, you'd BE different?
Alrighty then.
I want you to go back and tell him...that you werent' gay, but HE put the idea into your head, and NOW you are.
lisa
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Sebastian Melmoth
You raise an interesting point Tika, this particular hounder had quite a colorful background: his first wife left, his son became a rastafarian, (and was later killed in a gang related fight) and just before this incident involving me, he had married a sister half his age.
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Fadeout
Better you realize early rather than later.
I know someone who recently came out... it seems to be adversely affecting his marriage.
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Gopher
The Kingdom Halls are a breeding ground for backstabbers.
So let me get this right --- they allowed you to be baptized, gave you the ultimate position of responsibility available to a teenager (microphone handling), and THEN they tell you that people were whispering and backstabbing you?
Oh, that's rich.
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kurtbethel
I know that you were young and blindsided by this incident. I probably would have acted the same way you did when I was 16. In hindsight here is one way to play this out.
"Some people say they think I am gay, do they.? Brother C, do you know exactly what it is a man would do that would make him a gay man?
{C mumbles something}
"If I were gay I would want to have sex play with another man's penis, or desire that another man take my penis. That is what gay behavior is, brother C. Did someone observe me in play with another man's penis or they with mine? If so, I demand those two witnesses come forth. This is very serious. If I was not observed doing this then I am being slandered. Merely walking a certain way or talking a certain way does not make one gay. Now if you will excuse me I have to go sign up for a Jazz Dance class at my school."