IP_SEC, that was funny. I tell u though, the temptation to settle was strong as I was so used to a relationship that I just wanted any relationship. I got into a few that should have never happened. Bad experiences and hurt feelings resulted.
After Divorce- When Getting Into a New Relationship - Don't Just Settle !
by flipper 40 Replies latest jw friends
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LearningToFly
I would certainly not ever settle! Been there done that!
It takes truely getting to know the other inside and out.. before I can ever make a heartfelt decision.
It is all the little things.. the important life issues and values that need to be seen through time and learning about another that truely lets one know if that one is the right one.
I believe it takes time, talking, and much sharing that lets one know whether that someone you are interested in is the right one for you.
Never settle! Wait until the right one comes along!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5ZU53WdwSY
LTF
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flipper
WHA HAPPENED- Hey guy- I can sure relate to what you are saying. Before I met Mrs. Flipper I too had some bad relationships I should have not pursued, but you are right, if you are used to being in a relationship- and are not a loner , which I'm not, what does a guy do? Eventually I joined E-harmony .com and I got the love of my life in Mrs. Flipper. Every day with her is pretty damned cool !
LEARNING to FLY- I agree with you not to settle. I had to learn that the hard way over the years , but the last couple years I finally got smart ! Met my now wife through e-harmony. I totally recommend E-harmony.com for people as it matches you up on 29 points of familiarity with the other person. So you know you are getting someone with your same set of values -
LearningToFly
Smile!
Thank you Flipper! I have heard of E Harmony before but have never checked it out. From what I have seen here, you and your lady are a great match, if E Harmony is the venue that helped you find your match, I think it is a worthwhile option to check out.
There are so many important factors that are so important in finding the one that matches one well. Many very sweet people out there, but not always the ones that truely match you, and can be a lifetime partner.
LTF
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flipper
LEARNING to FLY- Yeah, it starts with a multiple choice question and answer thing you can do on your own computer an asks you many questions about the way you view friends, your emotions, mental issues, your personality, your habits, what you like hobby wise, everything under the sun, then once you are done it pipes in guys who answered the questions very similarly as you did. Thus the commonality involved 1 I think it works great- but I'm kinda partial ! LOL! Good luck ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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wha happened?
One relationship I have the most regrets about. She was actually right for me. Our relationship went beyond the witness standard, (I wasn't divorced and we had sex). She was perfect in so many ways but her conscience got to her and she drove me away. By the time she got to her senses I had already moved on. Timing I guess.
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flipper
WHA HAPPENED- Yeah, they say timing is everything. But like you say - it's good to have that right timing with the right person as well
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misguided
as a JW...I settled on 2 relationships...
the 1st was the son of an elder...he left me just days before our 5th baby was born...and moved in with a girl from his work...
the 2nd was also a son of an elder...he beat my 5 kids...and subseqently did a 30 day sentence and 1 year probation for what he did to us...we had 1 child together...
My 3rd., a "worldly" man are..getting married July 11...treats us all wonderfully...all 6 of us...or 7 if you include the kid some mom just threw out with no where to go...and we took her in...
Flipper is so right when he says to not just settle....I would have....but I lucked out...and have the most amazing person in my life now...
He's a wonder to my kids...it was his birthday today....and if I could have posted the card.my kids wrote..it would have brought tears to eyes. My children love him and respect him so much. He's so wonderful to me. I could never have expected this to happen to ME!
Happpy....finnnalllly...Rose
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flipper
MISGUIDED- Tell Mr. Misguided- happy birthday from us will you ? And I'm so happy for you that you finally found happiness after much sorrow in previous relationships ! Tremendous ! And I'm happy he treats your children well ! Good luck to you both! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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betterdaze
misguided / Rose,
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding July 11! And a happy birthday to your "worldly" man, too!
It makes my heart sing when you also mention the kid "some mom just threw out." That resonates with a lot of us here, I'm sure.
Wishing *all of you* the best and the brightest together.
~Sue