You know when I was 'on my way out' I had several friends apear, that I had not hung out with in a long while. I later found out it was at the prodding of my witness sister that they were trying to 'encourage' me. Of course once I was df'd I never heard from these friends again. Just something to think about....
Text Message I Just Received From An Old Witness Friend
by str8?so is spaghetti..until you heat it up 39 Replies latest jw experiences
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Awakened at Gilead
Suggested Reply:
"thanks Dave, but I AM fine. I AM in the truth now. Why can't you be my friend now?"
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Thechickennest
Hi:
I noticed that your friend said that "Jehovah forgives" ("This is classic JW "Let me evaluate you") Srt8 of course he misses you. You sound like you would be a fine, quality friend to anyone. Someone said a little while ago to go ahead and have a frank discussion with him. I agree. He may not immediatly respond, but he will never forget what you have to say. Just don't get sucked back in. Take Care.
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truthsetsonefree
This makes me wonder what my friends, many of whom I had 20 years and more are feeling. For what its worth I write occasionally with little to no response.
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SirNose586
He wants a Best Man? He can find another. If he wants to be your friend, there can't be strings attached.
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bluesbreaker59
again, change your number, dump the conditional friends, and start living YOUR life
The thing that they (the cult) hate the worst is when people leave and go on to lead successful, fulfilling lives outside the Borg walls. Closure, won't come until you let go of these "conditional" friends. Meaning, if you aren't a Dub in good standing, then they won't speak to you or be your friend.
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Bring_the_Light
This is a text message I just received from a guy who was in my old congregation. (Ps, no there was no shenanigans going on there, I wasn't interested in this guy in THAT way...even though he was possibly the best friend I had ever had within JWs).
"Hi rob. Please come back to the truth. I'm struggling without you. I know you have your reasons, but Jehovah forgives and I will be your friend again. I have a girlfriend now, 6 months. I will be needing a best man in 18 months.your friend, Dave.."
It made me cry. I'm sorry Dave!
Suggested response:
"Hi Dave. Please come back to reality. I'm doing well without "the Truth". I know you're indoctrinated and held captive by intense emotional blackmail from friends and family, but we worldlings love unconditionally. I don't have boyfriend now and need a token straight friend to be act as my non-threatening wing-man as I go find one. BOOYAH" -
reneeisorym
Conditional friendships might not be worth having but it doesn't mean that you aren't supposed to miss him. It's hard. I miss so many people that were close to me. Maybe one day he'll come out of the org. It happens even when we don't expect it. He might really need you one day.
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GoddessRachel
I second what Renee had to say.
You have to grieve over the loss of your friendship as you knew it, live your own life, and do what feels right to you with regards to this friend. He's conditional only because he's brainwashed. Maybe reaching out to him will help him escape. Do what is right for you.
Good luck! I know how it feels - my best friend from childhood who is a baptized JW recently left me a voice mail wishing me a happy birthday. It was odd to say the least, and I'm still trying to figure out if I should respond to her in any way or just let it be. So far, I'm letting it be.
Rachel