The problems with my JW family (page 2)

flipper

IMA APOSTATE- Welcome to the board friend. It truly is a tragedy when the " patriarchal mentality" takes over the Jehovah's Witnesses view of everything- including rape. There have even been experiences here on JWD from others in the past about elders blaming rape or child abuse victims for " seducing" their predators. Truly sick stuff ! My wife and I are glad you are here. You are among friends. You sound like a very loving mother to your children- and I know you will do a great job of protecting them as they grow up ! Look forward to more posts from you, take good care now, Peace out, Mr. & Mrs. Flipper

garybuss

My dad used me to get access to my sons. He wanted to split my family and he was successful. Today with hindsight, I wouldn't let a believing Witness within 100 miles of my children, especially a grandparent. If I'da known then what he was doing, I'da killed the bastard.

Ima Apostate

My daughter is pretty mature. I don't think she'll fall for it. Also, I don't let the kids go to meetings anymore. I used to let them from time to time (my parents love dressing them up and showing them off). My daughter says she loves our church and she hates the Kingdom Hall. She's so glad she doesn't have to go.

I'm so proud of her ;-)

jgnat

Your dad has a poison tongue and has done you a great injury. Frankly, I don't think he is safe around your children. Not for what he might do, but for what he might say. Sometimes words hurt more.

He is your father, for God's sake. You deserve protection from him, not recrimination.

Quirky1

Welcome Ima!

Hortensia

wow - what a cruel person. I'm glad you called him names. Now tell him to take a hike. He will definitely try to convert your children out of general self-righteous asshole-ness.

milligal

So sorry for your bad experience. My father an elder of 17 years reacted similarly to my older sister's being raped and a fellow witness woman who was raped as well. Both times he blamed the woman for the abuse. It's unfortunate and not uncommon-you're not alone.

I am going through many simialr issues as you. In fact I'm posting a new thread topic under dealing with abusive JW parents-I hope to hear from you on it.

P.S.

I'm new too, but welcome anyway...

SnakesInTheTower

WELCOME IMA APOSTATE...

dad tells me that this never would have happened if I'd had Jehovah's protection, but it was because I was hanging out with worldly people that this happened.

He says, "It's just as I told you back when you were raped - I still think that wouldn't have happened if you had been close to God".

this is the kind of crap that shows that JWs are brainwashed in a cult. Although I never went to that extreme, as an elder, by default, I was a judgmental ass. I didnt want to be. But, in retrospect, I have to admit I was. Those on the board who have met me in person and seen some of my early posts see some of that programming leaking out. I hope that I have matured past that in the 7 months that I have been completely away from the Borg.... but that is for others to decide.

Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. Welcome again....

Snakes ()

jamiebowers

First of all, you have the right to determine who has contact with your child and what is communicated to your child. I think you should let your dad know in no uncertain terms that he will be shunned if he doesn't cut the crap with your daughter. Second, aside from the fact that his jw true colors are showing when he blames a rape victim for being raped, I find it extremely ironic that he denies a pedophile problem within the organization of the WTB&TS. Check out the Silent Lambs website and/or go to http://www.watchtowerdocuments.com/ to see how the society, for years has covered up child molestation. It should be brought to his attention.

oompa

OMG! and GOOD GRIEF! What an idiotic and selfish bastard he is....is what I wanted to say at first....but he is prob just as brainwashed as my father, his father, and his.....my freaking great grand fascher!..........Try to hate only the idea and maybe its source...................................oompa....................and WELCOME!

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