How do you confront someone abusing their daughter?

by Paralipomenon 38 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse

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  Quandry

  Could you purchase a baby monitor and put it in the child's room to gather proof?
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  Mary

  Could you purchase a baby monitor and put it in the child's room to gather proof?

  Actually, that's a damn good idea. While my initial reaction would be to purchase a baseball bat to merit out justice, you need to be 100% sure that he's abusing her. If you get proof that he is, I would do what 6 of 9 suggested: Go on a camping trip and make sure only one of you comes back. I have no tolerance for sick pigs who violate kids in order to get their kicks.
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  Mary

  Sorry, double post.
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  jgnat

  No more talk of vigilante justice, please.

  How do you confront this? They were all for confronting the mother right away and giving her an ultimatum but I offered they do a bit more research.

  I'm with the consensus of the board. Talk to the mom away from the home about the matter and if she is not prepared to report right away, you do it. THERE MAY NOT be enough evidence to remove the child right away. Children's services should do this. But it is true in the meantime, the whole family is at risk. The only thing is the alternative (do nothing) is far worse.

  My best prayers are winging their way to your family right now.
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  VoidEater

  Call your equivalent of Child and Family Services. At least get their advice for the situation. You should be able to tell them the degree to whcih the child can describe what happened to them: level of detail, believability. Based on the available evidence, they will know whether to proceed briskly or slowly.

  Do not allow the father any warning which may trigger him to coach the daughter or dispose of evidence.

  Since the mother cannot be relied upon to do the right thing, do not give her any warning either.

  If she is aware of what is happening, she is allowing/enabling the abuse. Tell CFS that you have not informed her of your concerns - she may indeed be totally oblivious.
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  garybuss

  The mother's not a part of the situation in my world. I err on protecting the child. Here we have a child protection service. I'd just call them. I don't talk to the mother, I don't watch the sunset, I call them right now.
  
  I don't have any friends who abuse children, so I can't offend them.
  
  
  
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  daniel-p

  How do you confront someone abusing their daughter? ... with a baseball bat.
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  dwtnphotog

  Being a person who grew up being sexually abused, PLEASE call child services immedately!! I would rather the authorities step in and be in the wrong than let that girl go through one more night of horror! The trauma caused by sexual abuse will haunt her forever.

  As for the mother, abusers are usually very good at the deception! The mother WILL deny it. She is being manipulated by a sick minded individual.

  My mother could never comprehend my father doing this to me...after all, he was an elder...

  Please contact the authorties as soon as possible!
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  Gregor

  I have not read all the responses so I may be repeating anothes comments.

  Get that child to a doctor for a complete examination. I know that they will insist on having it signed off by a parent, but the grandmother might be able to do it if she explains her concerns. If the child shows sexual abuse let the authorities take it from there.

  I see nothing wrong with a couple of family members taking the father aside and telling him the games is up and he is looking at prison. This might stop further abuse until the law can put a case together.
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  DJK

  AUTHORITIES! AUTHORITIES! AUTHORITIES!