For the Sisters: Were you ever happy you couldn't have male "privileges"? (page 3)

jamiebowers

I resented being counseled to be a better wife because of my husband's sins.

I was thrilled when I had my baby because I had a legitimate excuse to stay home for six weeks. Then I was thrilled to take him to the KH because I had a legitimate excuse to spend the meeting in the bathroom, rocking the baby, rather than stuck out there in those uncomfortable stacking chairs.

Because I was born in to the WTS, it never dawned on me to desire any of the men's privileges. However, my ex-, an elder, always needed my "help" to write his talks because I'm more literate than he is. Essentially, I wrote all of his talks. Afterward, when people would come up to him and compliment him on what a wonderful talk he gave, I'd just look at him and smile and he'd get so mad! Funny, the few occasions he wrote his own talks, he didn't get any compliments...!

yknot

Yep, except standing at the podium to present my talks.

I have little patience for the otherwise weak male dubbing himself alpha male and the other wee men following like ducks in a row.

WTWizard

In fact, I was irate that I had to have certain "privileges". I did not like the petty rules about passing the mics that were not sensible (like pointing the mics down when not in use, where they could fall out of the holder or bump a chair). I did not like magazine duty one bit. And I did not like being the assistant of the Theocraptic Misery "School(??)".

But the one "privilege" I dread most of all is that Value Destroyer Training School. You not only have to be a "brother" for that, but you have to be single. Which is incentive for the witless cockroaches to continually bust up any chance I might ever have to find a mate--even now, in the off chance that I will return or that they can physically recapture me and drag me into the Kingdumb Hell and out in field circus.

Witness 007

It's funny my mum always wrote the talks for my dumb Ministerial Servant dad....HOW MANY Sisters are "ghost writers" for there husbands?

StAnn

It's funny my mum always wrote the talks for my dumb Ministerial Servant dad....HOW MANY Sisters are "ghost writers" for there husbands?

007 ~ My mother still writes talks for my brother, who is almost 50 years old! The only time he comes to see her is when he needs a talk written! Talk about pathetic! I'd bet half the talks are "ghost written" by women.

Open mind

Sisters "ghost writing" their hubbies talks.

So true. This is one of the best examples of the absurdity of JW patriarchy. There's a couple local guys, one Elder & one MS, who are clearly puppets for their much more literate wives.

I wonder if any GB wives have done any "ghost writiing"? Or more importantly, "ghost voting"?

om

White Dove

Yes, I was glad that I didn't have to do the talks or lead out in service. I felt that I had my freedom even as I felt they were male chauvenist pigs. I could not believe that they could work all day, come home and care for spiritual needs of the family, help the wife with the housework a bit, teach the kids personally one on one, prepare their parts, go to meetings and FS, and keep their sanity. No way! Something had to suffer somewhere. I saw a lot of spousal and child neglect for the sake of the "good news."

shopaholic

Nope. It used to drive me crazy. I always thought the congregations would run more efficiently if they appointed the folks that had the skills to do the job. I was in a congregation for a number years that had a mix of uneducated-didn't-know-how-to-do-anything-folks and highly accomplished professionals (mostly women). It was always the know-nothings that got appointed to positions in the congregations. I think they wanted to make a point that Jehovah exulted the humble. Because in their mind if you sought an education, you are not humble, because why work to elevate yourself above others? When I think back on all their crazy reasoning its enough to make me want to .

There is a JW lady that has a Ph.d and she mentioned that she learned to be quiet or walk away until the appoint men in the congregation decided on whatever they were talking about because listening to them talk while coming to decision made her want to go step in front of a truck. It's extremely frustrating to be a big deal at work and then be relegated to a second-class citizen to a bunch of window-washers and janitors (not that there is anything wrong with either profession). I eventually learned to walk away until the conversation was over and get back in time for the quick recap.

When I went to preach overseas, another female JW and myself, had a lot of privileges that are traditionally given to men. The congregation was one of the best running, highest attendance, highest field service average and aux and reg pioneers in the province. This was true congregations in other areas as well where it was primarily women taking the lead in the congregation.

keyser soze

Having the perfect COILING technique for your mic cord.

This was no easy task, let me tell you. It was always a race against the clock for me to get the cord rolled up before the end of the song. Seriously, though, closing prayer was always the worst for me. I remember when I would be called on to do it at the book study. It was mortifying. I remember spending half the book study thinking about what I was going to say in case I got called on.

For the Sisters: Were you ever happy you couldn't have male "privileges"?

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