you are right they should say they are sorry, but they won't in their eyes Jemima is backing them so how can they be wrong and they have nothing to feel sorry for, it's a load of crap
Assembly coming up- Still not talking to family but I will see them....
by cognac 16 Replies latest jw friends
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sweet pea
If you really want to understand their frustrating behaviour then read "Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)" - I believe they feel they are not doing anything wrong so have nothing to apologise for. Unbelievable I know, but human nature. They are so convinced they are right and have the truth that they will do and say all sorts of ridiculous things.
I agree with one of the other posters who said "do not feed into their view of 'apostate behaviour' - rise above them and be the better person - it takes maturity, courage and heaps of self control but I do believe it the best way (even though I have tremendous trouble with it myself!).
All the best
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hubert
Okay, Here's my take.
Go to the assembly. Sit near them, but not next to them.
Make sure you sit slightly in back of them. That will make them feel inferior. If you sit where they are in back of you, you will feel inferior.
Be pleasant, wave, and let them make the next move.
By all means, look very happy, like nothing bothers you. That will drive them nuts.
Hubert
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cognac
Thanks for the advice everyone. You guys have some really good points... I definately don't want 2 be a jerk because they will just think that I'm the one with the problem.
On, the other hand, I don't want to ignore it and be to nice to them because I also agree with what Finally Free said.
I think Hubert has a nice balance about the way to go about things. Not to nice where they walk all over me but not totally ignore them either. I like the idea to sit a few rows behind them, I'm gonna do that!
Thanks so much everyone, I feel so much better!!!
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flipper
COGNAC- I feel you have received great advice here ! Rise above the ridiculousness of it all by being more dignified and mature than them. Just stay on normal family topics , the weather, hair styles , what restaurant to eat at after the assembly , you know- non-witness topics. If a family member brings something up controversial - just say " I'd rather not talk about that right now. " YOU control WHAT you want to talk about. Don't let them CONTROL you. I wish you the best - you'll do just fine - I have confidence in you ! Mrs. Flipper and I miss you, my wife sends her love too. How's hubby situation going ? PM me perhaps if you want
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WTWizard
One possibility is to simply blow the whole thing off. You can get the synopsis right here on this site.
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cognac
One possibility is to simply blow the whole thing off. You can get the synopsis right here on this site.
That I might do, not sure. Of course, then there will be this whole big thing about it with the talking in my family... They will start all there planning and talking and crap on what they think they should do to "save me"... I wouldn't mind, but I'm just trying to go along with things until I switch halls...
Mrs. Flipper and I miss you, my wife sends her love too. How's hubby situation going ? PM me perhaps if you want.
I miss you guys too!!! Tell her I said hi. Hubby situation is going better, I'm just not talking religion anymore because A) I just don't care right now; and B) I'm just gonna fade once we switch halls... He's getting lazier in the truth in some areas, so it's ok.