Went to The Assembly... Finally Dealt with Family...

by cognac 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • cognac
    cognac

    Good Lord... Anyways, I took your advice and played it cool. My brother told me my parents feel really bad about hurting me. My mother made me lunch. That was nice. I was nice to them, but distant at the same time. I'm going to have to have a sit down talk with them soon. I think its time. I'll let you guys know how that goes when I do that.

    So, my one sister who I have no problem with - we were laughing and joking and goofing around. And my other sister (the one who was a complete jerk to me) sat there with a dirty look the whole time. She would not say ONE WORD to me. Just sat there as I was talking with the whole family with a dirty, mad look. Everyone was telling me how much they love me and miss me and hugging me and stuff and I think that pissed her off cause she didn't "win"... So, she basically treated me like I was d'fed... Even her husband eventually said something to me. She's just a mean person. She can't humble herself and admit she was wrong cause she's to damn proud.

    So, overall the assembly went fine. I didn't really listen to it so wouldn't be able to tell you what it was about but who the hell cares about that anyways??? lol

  • momzcrazy
    momzcrazy

    Good!! Sounds like your sister was pitching a fit, as we say around here. I bet her actions really made you want to come back to Jehovahs loving organization, huh?

    momz

  • cognac
    cognac

    She was just acting like a witch. It must have made her so mad that A) I didn't get into trouble even though she tried to get me in trouble with the elders; and b) nobody is on her side about this... Good, serves her right for starting crap with me...

  • momzcrazy
    momzcrazy

    Get her in trouble for slander.

  • cognac
    cognac
    Get her in trouble for slander.

    LOL, what a great idea Momz!!! lol, that would be soooo fricken funny!!!

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    I hope that your fade goes well enough so that this will be the last time you have to endure the pukefest.

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    It will take time, but try to forgive and understand.

    Some will say "Screw your family." I say "Remember that they are all captives
    to the mind-control cult."

    Forgiveness doesn't mean letting them walk on you. It just means being civil
    and trying to have a good relationship. One day, they may wake up and be glad
    you weren't forever holding a grudge.

    But if they "turn you in," don't tell them as much as you did about your concerns.

  • flipper
    flipper

    COGNAC- I understand how it feels to have had somebody try to assassinate your character to the elders - and fail at it. Then act like a brat and pout and avoid you because they couldn't accomplish it ! My youngest daughter did that to me and it's been a year since I've even talked with her. But her witness mother, my ex wife , a witness, keeps the anti- Mr. Flipper flames whipped up in both my daughters. My older daughter is less controlled so I'm more comfortable dealing with her occasionally.

    You only have to be with family members you feel comfortable around. You don't have to hang around people who treat you meanly or put you down in an insulting manner. My older self righteous brother, and one " spiritual " sister are that way. I just don't care to be with them. But my parents accept me for being a fader ; and they understand me. It sounds like your mom is trying to be conciliatory towards you and make an effort. Perhaps you will be able , after conversing with your mom and dad , to at least have a working relationship with them. But if the antagonistic sister continues her bratty ways - don't feel guilty about not hanging out with her. You owe her nothing for her abusive conduct. Hope things smooth over some for you sis ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper

  • Witness 007
    Witness 007

    Poor Cognac!....I just have my mum in......but I would feel bad hurting her...I pretend to "Sometimes when I can" go to meetings which is crap. She's visiting soon, and when she says: "It's Sunday...lets go to the meeting! Or horror of horror's field service!!...... ill be like !!!!

  • hubert
    hubert
    So, overall the assembly went fine. I didn't really listen to it so wouldn't be able to tell you what it was about but who the hell cares about that anyways??? lol

    Okay, Cognac, You can take the cotton out of your ears now.

    Hubert

    I'm very happy to hear everything went well for you at the assembly. Good girl !!!! You kept your cool !!!!!

    Was hubby there? How'd it go with him?

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