I think at one point I did. Looking back I can't see why I thought like that. I always had doubts about it but you would hear the old 'gods loving dicipline' line. Then I realised that it really was a crock of pish. Dicipline that is not comensurate with the 'crime'. How could I have been manipulated to act in such a terrible way? A way that is against the way I was brought up and against the way I really feel as a human? Now thats power.
Did you ever really believe that god wanted you to shun people?
by jambon1 35 Replies latest jw friends
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BluesBrother
Yes, In the hope they would repent.....
But I always was easily led
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BabaYaga
Absolutely not.
I knew that would not make the Almighty happy in any way... so I knew in my heart that I had a better relationship with the "Most High" than the Elders did. How's that for independent thinking?
Want to know why I was called in before the Elders? For sneaking to my disfellowshipped friend's house. Want to know what we did? We read the daily text together. I didn't want him to get discouraged by all the unChristlike shunning.
Ah, well. Ooh, bitter irony.
That was the ultimate reason for me seeing the light in the doorway. -
blondie
I was a jw during part of the time when it was more enlightened to being kind to df'd people. Not having them over for dinner, but smiling and saying hi, waving. I once gave someone a ride home who had been waiting for a bus in the rain.
I find that jws shun other jws, judging them as bad association, without even waiting for some official action by the BOE.
But then I know of jws that were df'd for associating with df'd jws; and others (elders) who associated with their df'd adult children and/or grandchildren without any sanction. The hypocrisy was educational and was part of the reason I am out now.
The important thing is to have learned and found what love really means.
Blondie
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CandleLight
Sure did!
I shunned my younger brother for 15 years!! I thought I was doing the "right and Loving" thing. It always, always felt wrong though... ya know that feeling of it just not being right.
First thing I did after waking up was call my brother and wholeheartedly apoligise for cutting him off based on commands from a group of Men. Bless his heart, he forgave me right away and said "it's ok you only thought you were doing the right thing." Hope I can be that forgiving when my turn comes.
love
CL
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jambon1
BabyYaga; Your post makes me kinda sad.
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BabaYaga
Dear Jambon... you don't know the half of the sadness of it.
My disfellowshipped friend later committed suicide.
Love and strength to us all...
Baba. -
jambon1
Terrible. Take care. J
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momzcrazy
I did. I remember when I was DF'd another DF'd person talked to me and I ignored him. Even DF'd I shunned others. I am so ashamed!
momz
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hillbilly
From what I read in the OT... god is much more into killing people. Shunning, if done the way it's described in the NT, is a way to work positive guilt and shame into a way to turn folks around
The WT screwed that idea up too
Hill