Did you ever really believe that god wanted you to shun people? (page 2)

Layla33

No, never agreed with that part of it. I just never believed and mistreating people just because they thought differently than me or made a mistake. It's unreasonable and totally heartless.

Shunning is very dirty business. As a small child I was taught to shun my fellow playmates out of school if they would not agree to a study. They could come to my house and hear about the truth, but I could not go to their homes.

When I was propabably 8 or 9 a beloved uncle who was one of the anointed was to be shunned because he was going to be DF'd. He had been to our home many times and was very kind to us. We attended a family reunion where he dared to show up and we were instructed not to talk to him.......He said hello to me and I turned away.... Not knowing the reason, and feeling very embarassed

A beloved relative was now so dirty I couldn't even talk to him.

When I was Df'd at the age of 16, the feeling is like no other, ....it only encourages hate. Hate for those who feel they are better than you, hate for the religion, hate for your parents etc.

My Dfing was reversed but I never recovered from it.

My mother decided to shun me two years ago after all this time. Hate is not a strong enough word to describe my outrage as an adult.

She finally gave it up because it was costing her, more than me........but our relationship will never be the same. I don't trust her for a moment and I hate this religion she belongs to.

r.

Fadeout

I never agreed with the shunning and I never went along with it. I'd say Hello right in the Kingdom Hall to a DFed person. Never got counseled about it, but our elders were generally liberal.

logic&reason

Even when I agreed with and went along with all of the stupid JW rules, it felt unnatural to shun people.

tfjw

I never really agreed with that garbage completely. I played along when I was around other JWs but I always smiled or waved at those who were being shunned whenever I ran into them at a store or somewhere. The Watchtower Society/Jehovah's Witnesses organization is one of the most unloving, un-Christian organizations ever in existence and are the cause for the deaths of countless lives because of their lack of charity (love/grace) toward others (believers and non-believers).

Bring_the_Light

Nope, but I did think if I talked to people I wasn't supposed to, I'd get in trouble (a quite accurate phobia). Now I have the Light and like to chat with apostates. Bring_the_Light

yknot

I thought he wanted us to be loving to the person but not approving of the action. So friendly aquaintances but not to the point of BFF.

I have never been to a KH that fully practiced shunning (only at the KH or when certain Eldums were watching).

Casper

No, No.... a thousand times NO....

I thought shunning was so inhumane... I despised the idea of it and I never, ever shunned anyone. Alot of those DF'd wouldn't speak to me, but they would smile and look appreciative...

There is no way on this earth that "Shunning" me would make me want to return... seems like such an asinine way to encourage people to return to the "Loving Fold"...

Cas

LouBelle

Nope - I never understood the whole shunning thing - I mean surelyif we showed that we loved them and still associated and included them in, those would feel more inclined to come back to the org.....I still kept in contact with the friends that got DF'ed.

milligal

In psychology there is a theory about programming-we all recieve it from our family. When I was young I just acted in the way I was taught to, largely without thought. Until my younger brother who was df'd and likely had schizophrenia, committed suicide. My whole world shook that day. I swore I would never again give up on someone, I would not judge and I would respect other's decisions. I have to the largest degree possible stuck to that committment.

Did you ever really believe that god wanted you to shun people?