She is trying me to the extreme and to the limit! (page 2)

yknot

PRO-Daughter !!

Unfortunately there are some people in this world who from the minute they meet you decide they hate you! It is a personality flaw that is best avoided then attempted to fix. They are some messed up folks........trust me!

Talk to your daughter tell you spoke with the teacher, that you feel that something is wrong about the teacher(validating any negative opinions). Ask what are they like in the class room? Does the teacher show respect to the pupils etc.....just get her talking. Ask her about her opinion on switching to another teacher. Ask her if other kids are having a problem too. Chance are there are more kids who feel the same way......talk to their parents.

The fact that this 'teacher' ranted publically about your child in front of siblings instead of requesting a parent conference is HIGHLY telling.

Contact the school administrator and guidance counselor as soon as possible to discuss not only your daughters changed behavior but also the unprofessional ranting of the teacher......which leads you to the clear opinion that your child's is in danger of having her spirit broken and request not only an investigation. Tell them you want your daughter in another class, that you want to meet with the new teacher after school today to discuss her trauma and what type of behavior from the teacher you expect.

sammielee24

Whatever you do just don't let them lead you to the path of drugs because she doesn't pay attention and doodles. I had a teacher like that in a few grades in school - I remember my kindergarten teacher continually berating me because I was a fidgety kid. I had a short attention span, got bored easily and would become fixated on something to the point of distraction - in one case it was a bow on a girls dress not being straight.

Today, I have no doubt that the teacher would have put a label on me and I'd be sedated, but my mother took her on. One of her b..tch points was that I was disobedient when given an order by the teacher to wait outside the school for my siblings to walk me home. I would refuse and the teacher would just about blow a vein! When report time came along, the teacher wrote how disatisfied she was with my disobedience, my inability to concentrate and all sorts of things - my mother promptly wrote back that if I was such a 'problem' for her, that it might be in my best interests to remain at home, since I was not going to be forced to endure freezing temperatures and isolation at the age of 5 because of a school rule. She further let her know that I was only a little girl and that there must have been something wrong with her way of teaching because I was a well behaved child in all other circumstances. It was also my first semester of school, so the environment was very different.

The teacher backed down and couldn't say enough nice things on my next report card - she pretty well didn't interact with me much for the rest of the school year, but she did back off. I had a few gems for teachers like that - they actually taught me a lot about prejudice, discrimination, control, oppression and provided me with a good overall view of how society thinks on many levels and how adults shape the minds of children most often in ways they don't even recognize.

I would ask your daughter point blank how she feels about the teacher and find out if anything else in her life, as small as it seems to us it may be a bigger deal in her world. It sounds like she has some sort of physical reaction to quite possibly a mental and emotional distress. All kids ae different so it might just be possible that she gets stressed out in a kind of teaching environment (ie yelling, loud) as compared to a more gentle approach. sammieswife.

reneeisorym

If kids misbehave, shouldn't the teachers ask themselves, "What am I doing wrong?" instead of "What's wrong with the kid?" first? I see a problem with a teacher blaming the child. Especially if the kid behaves with other teachers. I would think the teacher could have asked you something like, "Mrs. X, I notice that little x is having a hard time following instruction. Could you maybe have some insight on why that is so I could work with her better? Have you had any problems like this in the past?" Even if the teacher was doing her job well and it was the kids or parents fault, showing a polite and willing spirit to help would help her to work WITH the parents instead of turning it into a struggle between the two of you.

OUTLAW

Toxic Teachers......They shouldn`t be around children..Time to have a chat with the Principle........... Clint Eastwood ...OUTLAW

flipper

GILL- When my son and daughter were young in elementary school- they had a very authoritative, bossy, rude, controlling teacher that threatened the children constantly. I went and talked to the principal as other parents complained about her too. I said, " If the school board does NOT do something about this teacher and her disrespectful ways - I'm going to interrupt one of her classes by playing Pink Floyd's , " Another Brick in the Wall " with the lyrics , " We don't need no education, we don't need no thought control. No dark sarcasm in the classroom, teacher leave them kids alone. Hey teacher, leave them kids alone ! " After I threatened to play that song full blast in her classroom- the principal said he'd check into her behavior. Something you might consider ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper

Hope4Others

Sounds like the teacher is over the edge......

but I would suggest drawing your daughters feelings out as to; how do you feel when the teacher does this....

or how does this make you feel...she may really open up and tell you the real (reasons/teacher) and why school

has become stressful.

Best wishes,

hope4others

restrangled

Gill, please have your girl moved out of that class to a new teacher if possible. If a teacher is yelling and "at her limit" with a child who has always done well, something is VERY wrong.

A yelling teacher can shut a child down, and your daughter may just be tuning her out to cope. I am a good example of this. I was a good student, did my homework, got all A's and B's. Every teacher I had really liked me. In fifth grade I got a screamer for Mathematics. She would call us pansies, and find someone to pick on everyday, usually me. She would put me up at the chalk board and I would panic waiting for the yelling and couldn't think. It was horrible. I learned to hate math and to this day I shut down if anything goes further than adding, subtracting, multiplying or dividing. (Thank god for calculators!)

Please let us know what happens.

r.

lisavegas420

More than once I have taken days to spend at my childens school. Once I can see for myself what is happening, I have to power to do something about it.

The last time was when my son was in highschool. It wasn't my son with the problem, it was the teacher. I hope she was on her best behavior that day, cause I would have hated to see her on a bad day. I did not finish out the class that day.....and I took my son out, and we went to the office to start procedures to have him out of her class. I told the principal that I couldnt' spend an entire day in her class and I understand why my son couldn't.

lisa

restrangled

Livsagas....reminded me of the time I spent in public classrooms with my sons. I had forgotten how much time I invested.

So many parents are unable to spend time like this now,.....and I feel for all of you!

We had our sons in private education the first years of their schooling. It was fabulous but expensive. When they were near middle school age we could no longer afford the $1000.00 a month tab so had them back into public school at 6th and 4th grade. I spent the entire school year helping those teachers and watching what was going on.

One was a screamer, but didn't do it to my boy because I was there everyday! I split my time between her and my younger son's teacher. Doing art work, working with those who could not read, etc.

Both of these teachers recommended my son's for the exceptional learning programs. They took the tests and qualified all the way through High School. Because I was involved, they were pushed to the head of the line. Usually it took about two to three years to take the tests.

If you are an at home parent, which I know is rare these days, the difference it can make in your children's education is insane.

Sadly, I letup, and assumed the little squirts would carry on, on their own during mid and high school. No dice....the older one got a fabulous computer education in High School.....for 15 kids only. It included a 6000.00 dollars worth of computer education that anyone else would pay for at college.

He finally is accomplishing it. He has the knowledge, just not the titles because he was too comfortable. He has been earning at age 23 about $40,000.00 a year.

The younger one is a hard worker, and does not have an ego about work. He finally nabbed a great job with the govt. handling their computer problems and was cleared for major security at age 20.

My point being...stick with your kids all through the education process if you can. My husband continues to push them to continue their educations.

r.

beksbks

Hey Gil, is there a possiblility of having her put into a different class without too much trauma to her? Sometimes it's just a matter of fit.

She is trying me to the extreme and to the limit!

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