After all these years.........POOF! The desire is gone

by journey-on 23 Replies latest jw friends

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  AudeSapere

  I feel an overwhelming sense of peace today

  I think that's your answer.......you have peace.

  Mandette

  There's a phrase that I remember from the 80's: Let Go, Let God.

  Seems like that's the best policy here. God or higher power, in whatever form you choose to perceive him.

  There sure is an overwhelming sense of peace when we realize that we cannot change other adults. And it's not our responsibility to try.

  But I know that detached tone that witness sisters can have...!! They just MAKE you want to shake them. LOL.

  I'm glad you have peace. Let her find her peace herself.

  -Aude.
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  BabaYaga

  I think this is awesome, Journey. I'm very happy for you... this is the answer.
  
  Not to build up hope, because hope is a killer! hahahah... but you know the irony is that after you quit "suggesting", they might loosen up a bit and see the light someday after all. Jgnat posted something about this the other day, and showed a "finger trap" toy. The only way to get your fingers out, is to stop fighting and put your fingers closer together...
  
  there really is something to the JWs being obsessively defensive.
  
  I am thrilled at your new peace.
  
  Love,
  Baba.
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  Hope4Others

  Journeyon,

  Sometimes the peace within is worth more than the struggle to help others see, when they are not ready to see. Often times

  it seems they need issues to come into their lives to start to think...

  hope4others
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  journey-on

  Thanks for posting your thoughts everybody! There is so much wisdom to be found among you all.
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  changeling

  Good for you JO. You're in a good place.

  changeling :)
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  beksbks

  I think you've made an excellent decision. Unless someone is ready to see, they won't. Time to take care of yourself.

  Although how you can sleep with John McCain running around............................
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  caliber

  journey-on,

  Stage 5... acceptance.......is so peaceful and sweet ( thanks for putting me on your beer drinking list.. I never

  expected to ever make any list... very sweet of you )

  Caliber
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  Maddie

  "No...those leaving Jehovah is what tore our family apart."

  Exactly what I got from my family - they are indoctrinated to believe this and its so very sad and tragic. I am trying to "let go, and let God" as they say in AA. I don't want to spend the rest of my life in pain and anguish over something I am completely powerless over. The WT has already taken too much away from me so I aim to let them have no more of me. Good luck on your journey too.

  Maddie
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  PrimateDave

  I have to agree with you. Once you have made plain your beliefs to them, there is not much else you can do but live your own life the best you know how. I made my position clear a couple of years ago to my family. I would hope that if any individual member of my family held secret doubts, that individual would know I am here for them, not to force them to adopt my way of thinking, but as a gentle guide so that they can work out their own way. You are not giving up on them, but you can only be expected to meet them half way.
  
  Dave
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  moshe

  Yes, we can feel relaxed about accepting a JW relative never getting out of the WT. The problem is when they or their child/spouse need a blood transfusion and die needlessly. No, we can't totally give up.- in the JW's mind Jehovah has beaten you off of them, that is why you have given up.