by amama2six 41 Replies latest jw friends
I would send flowers or a gift of some sort with a card and leave it at that for a while. Ask about her when you talk to your Dad so they don't think you're too terrible but don't lose any sleep over her.
53 is not too old to be riding a moped, but she oughta watch where she's going for crying out loud. But I guess she wont be making that mistake again.
Duly noted on the picture...I took it down.
John Doe...I wasn't making fun of the idea of riding a moped...my Dad rides one too and I say "all the more power to him"! But in her physical condition I feel this accident was just WAITING to happen. My daughter told me a few weeks ago they were using mopeds and I immediately thought my stepmother would end up getting hurt. Lo and behold, that's exactly what happened.
I'm tempted to use it as an excuse with my husband to spend the extra money and go up there so I can see my daughter. Of course I'll visit my stepmother, too, if I do. I actually kind of feel more bad for my father...who will be taking care of her, working two large paper routes (hers and his...not the ride-your-bike size route...the driving kind), plus working his "day job" at Frito-Lay. He's not getting any younger and has already been stretching himself way too thin...this is likely to put him in his grave.
The way my daughter was talking about everything it seemed like her AND my Dad want me up there...with as bad as my stepmother has convinced my father I am this seems like an opportunity to prove her wrong (if not in her eyes, maybe in his). I'll have to think about it some more...money is uber tight right now.
someone posted: spend the money on grocery store gift cards
I live alone and have been incapacitated (knee injury and then subsequent surgery) a couple of times in the past 2 years.
My personal experience was that the absolute BEST support I received was food that was already prepared. Trying to cook even the simplist thing was a big deal. Cereal and milk, well, carrying the milk was a problem on crutches. Smaller containers that I could carry in a plastic bag to the table or my desk were better. Lots of small plastic containers with lids that have good seals were great. Even better if they could go from freezer to microwave to table.
For the wicked step-mother, how about a little card and a little stuffed devil - from the demon step-child???
-Aude.
LOL Aude, yeah, the stuffed Devil would go over REALLY well.
Since I'm too far away I can't make them meals or anything (but I would if I were close). Maybe some gift certificates to a couple of restaurants in their area so my Dad can go get take-out instead of having too cook would be a good idea.
Thanks for the suggestions! I'll keep you all updated on what I do / what happens with her.
If you can possibly afford it, take a trip up to CT. Once there, clean the house and shop and cook meals that can be frozen, so when your stepmother gets home from the hospital, everything will be done for her (at least in her mind). It doesn't matter if your motivation is to care for your daughter and father. You may turn her around. As for the snide comments about weight loss and weight watchers, I would avoid them. Why cause unnecessary friction? I'm sure her doctors are all over her about her weight anyhow. You could do small things to help her out with her diet without her even knowing it by using lean meats and poultry, whole grain pasta, sweet potatoes and low fat ingrediants in the food that you prepare and freeze. You can also write menus for your dad to follow that include fresh fruits and vegetables that go with the meals. Your stepmom's weight will increase since her mobility is curtailed even more. The easier you make it on her, the easier you make it on your dad and daughter. Good luck and congrats for even considering being the "bigger" person, (yes, pun intended).
I'm heartless in this situation....I would not call.
Those are AWESOME suggestions, Jamie! Your post has made me REALLY want to get up there...my husband even has Friday, Saturday, and Sunday off this weekend and we get paid at midnight Thursday night/Friday morning. I SHOULD be paying overdue bills with it, but maybe I can find a way to do both.
Only thing is, I think my daughter is going to Florida on Friday with her father so I won't see her if I go up there this weekend and by the time she's back my stepmother will already be home. I'll have to see if anything has changed in light of the accident taking place.
Even so, I'll probably be able to see her briefly (they were going to stop somewhere here in VA so I could at least have dinner with her on their way to FL) by meeting them somewhere else closer to CT or getting there before they leave.
Oh, and I would NEVER say anything about her weight to her, she knows it affects her health and ability to ambulate without me adding my two cents. The only time I discuss it with her is when she mentions it first...and I stay positive and tell her all I want if for her to stay healthy and feel her best.
I wouldn't expect any other response from you, Yikes...then again you know the WHOLE story about my stepmother, don't you? Unfortunately I'm not as vindictive as I'd sometimes like to be...and prefer to take the high road.
It's not vindictive.....it's reality. The woman does not deserve for people to be nice to her, she is evil.
The stuff you have put up with would have drove me over the edge sweetie, but I do not have your patience and I fight back...
You do what you feel is right...you always do..
Put the wicked past behind you and do what's right. You have some good suggestions.
