The female pilar of our cong. shunned me today. (page 2)

wha happened?

right on girl. U weren't the one that was uncomfortable and nervous, she was. I had a similar encounter semi recently at a restaurant bar. This MS saw me and got a nervous grin and took off. My wife and I looked at each other and went back to our evening. Shunning without cause, what a great sell of their spiritual fruitage of love

LongHairGal

Changeling,

Don't feel badly. I am always amused at this type of behavior from overrighteous JWs. If she fell down on the floor while she was running away from you would she expect you to help her up? You would be well within your rights to just walk away.

LHG

undercover

This is a long time regular pioneer, former missionary, elder's wife, mother of an elder/bethelite, and an outspoken pain in the ass.

The last description usually goes hand in hand with the former ones...

I've been "shunned" in similar fashion but I've also had the opposite happen. It usually depends on the self-righteousness of the individual JW as to how they treat inactive ones.

nomoreguilt

Changling.........3 years ago I attended the viewing of my best friend. He was not a jw but his wife was. Our children had been married to each other AFTER we had developed our friendship. I was not df'd or anything at that time nor am I now.

I noticed a sister, my mother had "brought " her into the truth in the late 60's, sitting with another sister. Now, granted, I knew that she was a good friend of my ex's, and I also knew that my ex had probably told her all the gory details of our life. However, I felt compelled to walk over to her and greet her. I put out my hand to her and said " Hello, so-and so, how are you? "

Her response to me was to cross her arms in front of her and pull them to her chest. I simply replied, " My aren't we cordial in our older age".

There are snappy replies to their insolense, you just have to be prepared to deliver them, as did Dawg. I applaud you dawg. carry on friends.

NMG

Gopher

Sometimes when JW's act like that, I think they may be more scared than hateful. They've just come across a 'marked' person or an ex-member IN PUBLIC, and their mind races a million miles an hour -- what to do? what to do? ESCAPE !!

I feel more sorrow than anger for some of them because of the fear inculcated by their cultish religion.

Junction-Guy

Perhaps it isn't her, but you?

sacolton

You should have said, "My! Aren't we feeling HAUGHTY today?!!"

tinker

So sorry you had to experience such rude behavior. I too have had the same thing happen, many times. Target and Costco seem to be favorite shunning territory. Some time ago I decided to teach them how to treat me. As soon as I see an old 'friend' I smile Big and go straight toward them with a nice greeting. Keep it short and sweet, hello and good to see you. A few times the conversation turned into a Q+A of religion and such so I made a plan to NOT go there again. These people were our closest friends but circumstances change and we have moved on. Personally I still care about these people and I refuse to treat them the way they would treat me. It was really scary at first but knowing this was going to happen again, I prepared myself. Sort of a script and learning how to lead the conversation. Years of KMS training not gone to waste. I have no interest in revenge but the old saying 'living well it the best revenge' sure has it's merits. I let them know I'm busy and living life to the fullest. Slip in something about my new hobbies and interests and then 'gotta run.....peace be with you'

Dagney

Like others have said...with behavior like that, there is no reason to run back to that sheepfold!

When I have had a similar experience, the rudeness amazes me. Since leaving JW behind, don't you guys feel like in your regular life, you don't experience even the "thought process" of ignoring somebody you know? I mean, when I see somebody I know, the first inclination is to greet them, (it's spontaneous), or in the very least, acknowledge their existence. Then "oops!, that's right...I'm in the invisible class. Must not look." LOL. I do anyway, screw em.

What a crazy way to live in my book, having to think that way about anybody.

nomoreguilt

Dagney and Tinker....Yes, you are right. It seems to me that in the last few years I have become MUCH more outgoing towards people, any one in fact. Not that I haven't always been this sort of person myself, but I had a tendancy to avoid jws when i saw them. That was up until 5 or 6 years ago. I have been fading now for 4 years and in this time I make it a point to approach them and ask them how they are doing.

I make it a point to introduce my new bride of 5 years and almost to embarrasment I make them acknowledge her. She's not a jw and they all know it by now. So what! I'm not either, any more. Flount it I say! make them squirm a little is the way I see it. ERRR! Don't get me going again.

I'm happy and they aren't!! Right??!! HAH!!

NMG of the no more guilt class

The female pilar of our cong. shunned me today.

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